Babytalk's Big Sex Survey
Quickies, low libidos and 3 a.m. rendezvous: Babytalk's largest sex survey invites you into bedrooms of parents everywhere
The side-effects of a C-section
What did Caesar know anyway? According to the survey, women who had Caesarean sections are more likely than those who had vaginal births to feel self-conscious with their post-baby bodies, have no libido and -- perhaps the impetus for the previous two -- struggle with postpartum depression.
"Needing to have a C-section after being in labor for hours and hours is often felt as a 'failure' by the mother," explains Dr. Hakakha. "Women often feel that their bodies have 'let them down.'" She adds that in cases of emergency C-sections, such as those for premature births and multiples, "these babies often go to the neonatal intensive care unit, where they're separated from mom. All of these factors could lead to a higher rate of postpartum depression."
Looking for romance? Don't ask a parent
When asked, "How often do you go on date night?" 67 percent say every few months or never; only 8 percent have date night once a week. Creating a romantic rendezvous at home is equally challenging. Eighty-two percent have sex either before bed or in the middle of the night, and nearly 60 percent say their partner is the one who initiates sex more often. Hypothesis, considering that 96 percent of our respondents are women: Is dad making a move on mom after those late-night feedings? Not too suave, Dad Juan de Marco.
"It's a lack of intimacy, not sex, that mars the relationship," says Paredes. "Sex is a physical act. Intimacy doesn't even have to lead to touching. It can be a deep conversation, or sitting close together while watching a movie. Women put intimacy higher on their priority list than sex. Start building this first, and the sex will come."