Ask if he wants a party Don't assume that he craves a birthday bash. Some adopted kids may dislike being the center of attention on this bittersweet day, says Eldridge.
Talk about his birth family Encourage him to express any anger or sadness. But also acknowledge how grateful you are that you were given the opportunity to love him. Suggest making a special wish for his birth parents before he blows out his candles.
Spend time together Look at pictures of the day you brought him home, and describe your first weeks and months together.
Create a keepsake box Have your child place special items in it, such as a photograph of his birth parents and his adoption announcement.
Celebrate his adoption Throw a party in honor of the day he came to you.