Find the right spot
-A private nook in the attic, basement, even a closet will do. If it's simply a chair in the living room, rotate it so your back is to the room; you're turning your back on stress. And tell your family your space is off-limits!
Set the scene
-Get a cozy chair, the cushier the better.
-Treat your senses with music (via an MP3 player), soothing lighting (a candle or lamp), nice scents (try an oil ring), favorite pictures, and a soft throw or pillow.
-Add pastimes -- a good book, trashy magazine, crafts project -- stored in a pretty box so clutter can't spoil the serene vibe.
-What to skip: family photos, kids' toys, or any reminder of your usual routine.
Sit back and relax
-To mark the transition into your own little world, establish a ritual: Make a cup of tea, turn on a song you love, or pick up a book you read only while in your special chair.
-If you keep finding excuses not to take five minutes for yourself, leave something in your space that you need every day -- say, your vitamins or eyedrops.
