Turn Your Brain Back On
Try a hobby.
Feeling sensual means different things to different women -- for some it's a body thing, for others it's all in the mind. But any activity that takes you away from the all-consuming task of caring for a small child can open the door to other aspects of your old self, including the sexual one.
Linda Benning of Raleigh, North Carolina, recently took up quilting. "I try to do it for two to three hours at a stretch," she says. "I'm still learning to let go and concentrate on something other than the kids for that period, but it's going great."
Lose yourself in a novel.
"It's hard to find time to read a book with a four-year-old and a two-year-old," says Leanne Lindelof of Cupertino, California. "But carving out time when I could was really important; being sexy for me is about being smart -- particularly when I talk with my husband."
Catch a flick.
"My husband was a film major in college, so we saw a lot of movies before the kids were born," says Lori Woehrle. "Going out to a movie occasionally, even a matinee, helps us reconnect and rekindle the flame: It gives us a chance to talk about something other than our two kids or our jobs."