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5 Ways to Make New Mom Friends


You're a mom! Congratulations! Or shall we say, “Welcome to the club.” It's time to bond with total strangers over leaky boobs, poop production and other topics that would repel even the friendliest of people under normal circumstances. You'll find yourself sharing (and oversharing) at parks and playgroups with women from all walks of life — women with whom you may have only one thing in common: motherhood. Sure, it's a great opportunity to make new friends, but it's also a great way to stomp on social land mines, blowing yourself into “mommy oblivion” (otherwise known as that dirty park bench in the hot sun). To help you make the right impression, we compiled a list of things new moms say that could get them kicked to the curb like the full contents of a Diaper Genie:

“Jake's off the charts. He's so big and healthy.”
“This isn't the county fair,” says Wendy Haldeman MN, RN, IBCLC and co-founder of the Pump Station and Nurtury in California. “One of the things that concerns me most when you put a group of mothers together is that they start to compare their babies. Every baby excels in different areas, and they all end up in pretty much the same place.” So keep your bragging to a minimum, at least until you know the mom better. Once you become fast friends, there will be lots of opportunities to share your excitement over milestones. Related faux pas: Your little Madeline is tiny! That's so cute!”

“My daughter has been sleeping through the night since she was 2 weeks old.”
In the mommy world, this is like saying, “I won the lottery and don't ever have to worry about money again!” Congratulations, but you'd never share this news in a homeless shelter. Think of it like this: Most of the women in your playgroup haven't had a full night's sleep since their second trimester. Instead, share your sleep success stories with your own mother (who will probably curse you too, since you didn't sleep through the night at 2 weeks either). Related faux pas: “Simon just loves his naps. He'll fall asleep anywhere!”