Make Sure You're Not Raising a Brat
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Your preschooler's observations are all too accurate (and loud) -- like the time he pointed out a very fat lady. Next time he does it, you:
A. Shush him and pretend it didn't happen.
B. Apologize to the woman in front of your child.
C. Tell your child to keep his comments to himself.
Answer: B and C
Small children are infamous for their truthfulness. When something like this happens, it's best to apologize to the person in question, and tell him you're working with your child on tactfulness. "That's about all you can do this time," says Senning. "But now you have an opportunity to teach her why commenting on people's appearance in front of them isn't polite."
While you're talking, remember to be specific, because what's obvious to us isn't to a young child. For instance, say that everyone looks different and that that's okay -- some people are big, others are small; people come in all different skin and hair colors.
When this happened to me, I only followed part of this advice. I was eating out with Jack when he pointed to the back of an old woman's head in the booth next to us. "Mom!" he yelled. "A snowball! Look!" Sure enough, from behind, the lady's puffy white coif looked like a perfect snowball.
Luckily, I don't think she heard him (and I wasn't going to bring it to her attention). As I shushed Jack and reminded him that it's not polite to point, his sandwich came and he forgot the "snowball." But I hope the lesson won't be so easily forgotten.