Pros and Cons of Learning the Sex of Your Baby
One of the first decisions new parents face is whether or not to learn the sex of their baby. Here are two sides to the story
At my 20-week ultrasound, Haywood held up Sam so that he could see the shadowy baby waving and kicking. When the sonographer asked, "Do you want to know the sex?" I shook my head. "No thanks," I said. "We want it to be a surprise." Then Haywood left to let Sam run off some energy in the hallway and I asked, "Is it a boy or a girl?" The sonographer looked startled. "Are you sure you want to know?"
"Yes. Anything you know, I want to know."
It turns out that Haywood and I were both right. For him, the surprise was worth the wait. For me, when that sonographer said, "It's a boy!" the words sounded as magical as they had the first time I heard them: in a delivery room, four years before.
Contributing editor Margaret Renkl is the mother of three boys, ages 4, 6, and 11.