Reality Check: Stop Whining
Q. We're at our wits' end with our preschooler's whining. How can we get him to stop?
A. We, too, have a whiner at home. She began at age 3 and is still at it (though not as much) at age 5. But just as she has two years of experience, so do her father and I, and now we can see the warning signs of an impending attack and head it off. We also know that modern nostrums, such as reminding her to "use your words," just up her volume, and yelling at her creates a big scene.
The bad news? There's no sure cure. But the good news is that there are many approaches to try -- and one or more of them (depending on the day and the mood) may do the trick.
Identify any real cause of his behavior. He may be hungry or tired, getting sick, or possibly just bored. Even if you can't fix it, at least you'll understand.
Because Ellie is our second child, my husband and I take comfort in the knowledge that this behavior, too, shall pass. If all else fails, remember that time is on your side.
Trisha Thompson is a contributing editor to PARENTING magazine and a former editor-in-chief of BabyTalk.