I was one of the first of my friends to have kids, and as my friends get married and start their families, one question I seem to get asked a lot these days is, “What do you know now that you wish you had known back then?” And of course, there’s a lot that I know now that I wish I had known back then -- that asking for help from others when I need it doesn’t mean I’m a failure because I can’t do it all, that I would go on to nurse both of my sons past a year (that seemed a long shot in those first few tough weeks), that I really am the expert on my kids, that I don’t have to listen to everything the pediatrician says, and that both of my boys would be healthy (amen).
Another editor (thanks, Sasha!) pointed me toward this video making the rounds among mom friends: “Reflections of Motherhood,” produced by Nummies maternity bras. The company asked moms what they would tell themselves if they could go back to right before they had their first baby. The video shows real moms and their responses -- which range from to funny (“Google doesn’t have children” and “Real men change diapers”) to smart and supportive (“Take time to fall in love with your baby,” “It’s okay to want a break,” and “You will make mistakes”). The one that hit me the hardest: “You will miss your mom,” as I lost mine last year to breast cancer.
Which one strikes you the most? What would you say to your pre-baby self?