We decided awhile ago to celebrate Halloween together even though it's technically my husband's weekend. We did everything the same as we always have. The house was done up, complete with light-machine ghosts swirling up the front porch. We went to the town parade. We had way too much candy. I greeted the trick or treaters while they hit the street for more loot.

After my last post, I received some good pieces of advice: consider seeing a counselor individually (so on that sister, I've got two!), keep a journal (have one, haven't been using it), and make a list of what you like about being separated. Seems like such an obvious way to get the brain to focus on the positives, yet it's never occurred to me. So thanks for the tip(s), Anonymous, here's my first go:

1. Mommy and me time means a whole lot more.

We have our first post-split check-in with our therapist tomorrow night. My stomach's already churning, and I have no idea what to expect.

My husband wanted to wait a while longer before we did this, but I had to insist. My one attempt to ask him how he was doing was stonewalled a few weeks ago: "It's hectic...and it's too soon to know...what else do you want me to say?" Something. Anything. I haven't asked again, and he's never asked me.