He expects a medal for doing once what you do every day
You say: "Could you please help with the kids this afternoon?"
You mean: Like I should even have to ask. And why "help"? They're your kids, too.
What happens: He watches the kids, then talks about it as if he'd just scaled Mount Everest. You fume silently.
How to deal: Rarely is everything divided fifty-fifty between spouses. Certain duties fall more to one person than the other. Over the long-term, though, things balance out. So instead of focusing on what your husband isn't doing, think of an area in which he carries more than his share: Does he balance the checkbook? Clean up after the dog? Wash the dishes without comment? If he really isn't doing enough at home, sit him down and give clear instructions of what needs to be done.

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