Clashing Parenting Styles: Grandma's Way vs. Your Way
A guide to handling unwanted parenting advice from your mother or mother-in-law, from rice cereal in the bottle to whiskey as a teething remedy
When my first son, Ben, was born three years ago, my mom and mother-in-law generally bit their tongues when it came to doling out advice, but my husband's grandmother was another matter. At various times she insisted that I was overfeeding (he nurses too much!), underfeeding (give him a bottle already!), and that I should put some cereal in his bottle to help him sleep through the night (you've heard that one too, right?). As if parenting a newborn wasn't confusing and exhausting enough, I felt drained by trying to politely deflect her suggestions.
That's not to say that our mothers or grandmothers don't have plenty of great advice to offer -- they do! (They raised you and your husband, right?) But sometimes their advice can be outdated, wrong, or even downright dangerous. We checked in with two of our Mom Squad members, Dr. Lara Zibners and Denene Millner, to help you determine what advice of Grandma's is worth following, what should be ignored, and how to keep your sanity in the process.