Will I still be the same "down there" when this is all over? Even if I have an episiotomy?
Trust us: You're probably not going to be too worried about this right after having the baby. Sex will not be nearly as enticing as sleep, and when you begin to feel amorous again, all will be healed and you will have had time to perform a gazillion Kegels to regain your muscle tone, if you're that motivated. As for the tightness factor, if your episiotomy or tears are repaired well and you exercise to get your muscle tone back, especially between pregnancies, your pelvic floor should return to normal, insists Dr. Abello.
Sex can feel different at first because scar tissue may need some stretching, but take it slowly and gently and the pleasure will return. Buxton recommends doing Kegels while nursing your baby—not only to regain muscle tone, but because they promote blood flow, which will help your perineum heal. And remember: There are other ways to be intimate when you're not in the mood for sex.
Stephanie Wood is a freelance writer and mom of three in Blauvelt, New York.