Will you work after the baby comes?
This is the epitome of loaded questions. No matter what your motive in asking, most women will answer defensively. For nine months, everyone asked me if I was going back to my full-time magazine job after my baby was born. The answer seemed so obvious to me—of course! Babies are expensive! Who would give up a job in such an unsteady economy? Well, the exact same reaction is true for a woman who absolutely plans to stop working after the baby is born. How could I leave my baby? Why would I pay someone else to raise my child?
It’s natural to ask about a woman’s plans after childbirth, just be sure to ask with an open mind: Don’t assume a mom who goes back to work is selfish and that a SAHM is so lucky to afford it (maybe she can’t afford the child care, ya know?)