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So im 14 years old and im having a baby ! And to be very honest , im so scared and dont know what to do or if im going to be a good mother or what ? Does anybody have any advice for me ?
asked by littleprecious 2 years 13 weeks ago
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by oceana brooks submitted 2 years 13 weeks

just calm down i know thats hard but you need to just stay calm stress isnt good for the baby im a first time mommy i have a 2 and a half month old daughter her name is caitlyn and im pregnant again with sextuplets im scared of not being able to take care of them or not being a good mom and i know its scary especailly because your 14 but its ok theres good and bad about being pregnant but its fun when you get your baby good luck!

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by ksmorris submitted 2 years 12 weeks

14 is very young to become a mom, you're still a child yourself.  raising children is NOT easy!  you have to think realistically and make the right choice for your child.  i had my first child at 21 and am 29 now with 2.  when i look back i feel that i was too young at 21. i would suggest at least researching adoption to see if that is an option you may consider.  you have so much to accomplish yet in your young years, not that you couldn't do it with a baby, but let me tell you having a baby sure makes it that much harder! if you keep your baby, having a good support system (such as your parents or another close family member) really helps alot. whatever you decide i wish you the best of luck. also, it's normal to worry about wether you'll a good mom or not. sometimes we find it hard to make our own decisions let alone make them for someone else!  stay strong and look to God, he'll lead you in the right direction! you're in my prayers!

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by cresteds submitted 2 years 12 weeks

I was a teenaged mom but still older than you. I can tell you the odds are stacked up against you if you decide to keep this baby. Do you have a support system? Is your family willing to help? Will you have someone who can watch your baby so you can finish school? Get a job? etc. There are many things for you to consider.

Don't get me wrong I do believe that some young people are very capable of having and raising a baby, but it is HARD. You need to consider not only yourself but the baby as well. Can you give this baby everything it needs and deserves in life?

There are many people in the country who would love a child but just cannot have one themselves and would love to adopt one, is this an option for you?

You don't have to answer these questions here, but to yourself :)

Whatever you choose goodluck, neither road will be easy.

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by jamesta08 submitted 2 years 12 weeks

I knew someone who was 12 when she had her first child and she finished school and went on to have a good, stable job.  Never think just because you are young and the odds are against you that you cant do what you set your mind to!  Good luck.

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by littleprecious submitted 2 years 12 weeks

Thankk youu everyonee for your advice ; im know i may be very and young and its wrong of me to be having a baby but i didnt plan it ; it was an acciedent but i grew up with a family that sticks by you no matter what . My family and everyone is already helping mee with a lot and im staying in school ; my mom will watch my baby when i go to school and shes gonna help me out but shes also not gonna do everything for me because its my baby and i did it . & i do believe i can give my baby everything it needs !!

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by LitenKatt submitted 2 years 12 weeks

Having a baby is hard at any age. The fact that you are taking full responsability for your own actions says a lot about you. My advise is to never be afraid or ashamed to ask for help or advise, from your mom, here, whatever. Some things come naturally, some you'll need help with. Never be afraid to ask for help. Some people may judge you for it, but then you don't want there advise anyway. ;) Enjoy every moment, they go by fast!

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by pinkpaisley8709 submitted 2 years 8 weeks

what is wrong with your parents? i live in MS, and we have the highest rate of teen pregnancy, and teen parents as well. i would sure hope that it was not a planned pregnancy. but i would not call it an accident either. you made the choice to have sex without protection, or some form of birth control. you shouldnt be having sex at 14 anyway! you are not physically or mentally ready for sex at your age. good luck to you trying to raise a baby at 14. atleast i can give you kudos on not aborting. it upsets me when i see a pregnant teen. who is REALLY going to be taking care of the baby? your mom! not you. you can kiss your childhood goodbye, sweetie. by the way, where is the father of the child? your child will grow up without a father in his life, i can almost guarantee it. your parents should have kept a better eye on you.

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