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14 weeks and scared i might lose this baby i have lost two before.

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I have had two miscarriages and I was 9weeks the first time and carried to 14 before I started bleeding. Only 6 weeks the second time. I went to the doctors a week or so ago and saw the baby and heard his heartbeat. I am so terrified that if i get all excited i will end up disappointed, again. Should I take it easy and not do to much or the opposite? I just want a healthy baby and smooth delivery. I would even just settle for healthy baby. Is there any way to know that this one is different?

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Just try and calm down first of all. I know easier said then done. I would say that it is a good sign that you are all ready to the point where you lost the first and well past when you lost the second. I don't know of any way to tell if this time will be different but I really hope so. I would definitely take it easy because it won't hurt and it gives you the extra rest your body will need. I have lost two babies also. The first was my very first pregnancy(at 16), I was pregnant with twins and lost one. The second was after I had the baby I didn't lose. It is a very sad, very scary thing to lose a baby. I hate to hear that you had to go through that. Just try to relax, stay positive, enjoy being prego and remember that you've all ready made it this far. Good luck and I'll keep you in my prayers! :)
I'm in the same boat as you. I had a miscarriage in '07 at 12 weeks. The baby had stopped growing at 5 weeks and we didn't know until my first ultra sound. Now I am 15 weeks and freaking out but you just need to stay calm. Once you hit 14 weeks the chances of miscarring drop a ton! If you heard your baby's heart beat at 13 weeks you are all good. It is most unlikely that you will not miscarry but i would for sure talk to your doctor about your fears and see they are welling for your piece of mind to do an extra ultra sound or just let you come in to hear the heart beat again. Most doctors are more then happy to help you feel better. Stressing out about it is not helping you or the baby. I understand how hard it is and it can get scary. Trust me, I freak out and call my midwife about everything. And i understand trying not to get excitied or feel something for this baby but it's hard not to love something that is growing inside of you. You just need to let yourself be happy about getting to be a mom and love this baby no matter what happens. Making it to 14 weeks is a big thing in pregnancy world. I hope that helps alittle. Just stay positive!

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