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Feeding my baby... I need advice!!!!

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I have a 12 week old baby and I started out breast feeding, I have lately been giving him mostly fomula... My sisters are against formula so its awkard talking to my other sisters about it since they all breast feed, but I personally feel awkward breastfeeding. It's weird for me to have my baby sucking on me but I feel guilty about giving him formula. I have to use a breast shield which also makes it really difficult and using a pump is exhausting. I do however like being able to breast feed at night but I'm afraid my milk supply will dry up. I want to just stop breast feeding because it's so much easier for me to bottle feed but I feel so guilty. I don't know what I should do...I feel so torn...Any advice???!!

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Do what you feel most comfortable with.  As a parent you will encounter so many trials that will make you question whether you are correct or taking the right path, but in the end trust your gut.  If you aren't comfortable, and not everyone is, then bottle feed your little one.  There are plenty of women out there who are only able to breastfeed for a short period of time me I haven't made it past 9 weeks with either of my boys before my milk has ran dry.  We switched to formula and have two smart, healthy and energtic boys.  Formula today is made to be as good as mothers milk.  The nutrients that your baby needed from your milk it received in the first 12 weeks of life.  If you can't go any further or don't feel comfortable, then move on with what you are okay with.  Hope this helps!
I guess I just feel guilty not breast feeding because a lot of women have problems with their milk supply and cant breastfeed and that definitely was not a problem for me. Thank you though, that definitely helped!!! And knowing formula is just as good for him is an encouragement me for!! thank you :)
In the beginning I felt weird about breastfeeding too I mean a baby sucking off a breast it just freaked me out but with the help of my husband who was very pushy, the lactation consultant at the hospital, and my mom of course I overcame the whole feeling weird about it thing. I tried it for a couple of weeks and loved it because I knew I was doing the right thing for my baby. However after a couple of weeks I got a breast infection and was sent to the hospital talk about a long time being away from my baby I was in the hospital for a couple of weeks all alone and could not leave. After that I had to stop and feed my baby only formula which took a long time to find the right one because she was lactose intolerant but after finding it my daughter was healthy and perfect. I felt awful though when every one kept saying breast is best so i though of a new slogan mother always know best. You know your body, your baby, and you know what your comfortable with so you know best when it comes to your baby. Trust yourself.
Don't worry about what your sisters want. You do what is best for you and what is more comfortable. Being stressed and awkward doesn't help your baby a bit. There isn't anything wrong with bottle feeding your baby! I have bottle fed all 3 of my kids and they are perfectly fine. Your sisters should really try to be more understanding. Just because its what is best for them doesn't mean its what is best for you. Do what you feel is right because you know what is best for your situation. Just trust yourself necause you would never do anything to harm your baby.
Thank you all!! Your advice has been really helpful :)
Ok, I'm starting this is telling you I am one of those pro-boobie mommys, and would help everybody breastfeed if I could! Is there a reason that pumping is exhausting? Sometimes your pump is to blame. If your pump is working right, it shouldnt take long to fill a bottle. You might want to take your pump apart, and put it back together. I had to do that a couple times to pump milk for when I was out of the house. One other thing... remember the only reason a woman actually has breasts is to feed a child with, so it isn't wierd. They aren't a sex organ! My hubby calls my boobs the baby feeders... which makes me laugh. Again, I'm a pro boobie person, and you need to do what is right for you!

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