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I am 25 years old I have four children and one n the oven. I am supposed to get my tubes tied right after i give birth. I am having mixed feeling. What should I do?

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If you have ANY doubt, even an inkling that you MIGHT want another child in the future, PLEASE DONT DO IT! I had a tubal ligation (tubes tied) when I was 21 and it was an extremely difficult, painful and expensive surgery to have it reversed. And trying to concieve afterward was not an easy process. Not to mention the never discussed post tubal ligation syndrome which can cause menopausal symptoms, depression, hormonal imbalances and all kinds of other untalked about symptoms. Doctors will rarely tell you the horrible side effects. But beleive me, having been there along with many other women who have experienced it, it is real. Recovery from a tubal ligation is easy, recovery from the reversal is not...there are so many less permanent forms of birth control that you can use instead until you are 100 percent sure that this is what you want...and after the long road to getting my reversal, after 14 months of trying and a miscarriage, I am finally pregnant...but I know too many women that just cant get pregnant again after their reversal, making their "mistake" of a tubal ligation even more painful...Id hate to see anyone go through that if they just arent sure. KWIM? Thats just my two cents...
5 kids are a lot to handle, but thats just my opinion.... what if in 10 years you want another bundle of joy? I agree about not getting it done if you arent 100% sure. Birthcontrol is always an option over getting your tubes tied. Make sure its not forced upon you and its your own personal choice. Good luck with everything!
Don't do it, there are so many reasons, why go through the rest of your life having a period and not even having the capability to have kids? Like the last two comments said, you may change your mind some day. You're only 25, you say, and sure, 5 kids is a lot right now, but those kids will grow up, things could happen to them, heaven forbid it, but it's possible. What happens when your left with no kids either from them growing up or other things? What if you're just the type of person that loves having babies, and if you can take care of them, why not keep your wonderful ability to help with the creation of life? I'm 21 and I'm pregnant with my third child. I don't feel like being an octo-mom or anything, but I was given the ability to have children for a reason and it's not something I would readily give up.
im jessica and i am 29 and i was 21 with 4 babys 4 3 2 and 1.I had been with there dad since i was 16 and we started haveing kids right away.well after our 4th our 2nd boy we decided to do the tubal that was 8 years ago amd we have been split up for 4 years now and im married to an amazing man now and he only has my children and he so baddly wants us to have a baby but i cant give him one and i wish i could go back in time and not do it because of the fact that i found my soulmate but life goes on and ill live my life hopeing ill end up that .1% that gets pregnant anyway i find myself everyday watching t.v. and saying i should have just got that birth controle it gets to me really bad but oh well maybe ill win the lottery and be able to get it reversed so make sure that your sure because i didnt.
You're only 25.  Get an IUD.  Its a better option for you just incase you want more in 10 years.  My mother had 3 girls after my brother and I were 15 and 16 years old.  She was 42 when she had my 3rd sister then she got her tubes tied.  That makes much more sense to me.  You have at least 20 more years of baby making.  Don't throw that option away.  Its a blessing.
I do believe that children are a blessing but five are more than enough! You really need to question what your motivation is to keep having more children. What is it that you are looking for what 4 children haven't given you already? Concerning the tubal ligation part it is really up to you, but keep in mind that no birth control is 100% effective. I have a young cousin with 3 kids that was using the IUD and it failed. She ended up having a 4th child unemployed, and with a husband who had been recently laid off. She now wishes she had her tubes tied after the birth of her 3rd child because the financial and emotional strain of an unplanned pregnancy was too much for them to handle.

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