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I need advice on gaining weight...

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I'm 17 weeks pregnant and I currently weigh 10lbs less than I did when I got pregnant. If I don't start gaining weight my doctor is going to freak out on me. I had an appointment on wednesday and when she looked at my weight on my chart she asked me in a not so pleasant tone if I was eating. I do eat, half of it healthy half of it not so healthy, but I'm eating. I'm not doing anything to get any exercise either. I am unemployed right now and my husband & I only have one vehicle so I spend like all of my time taking care of our almost 3 year old daughter. She is very good at keeping herself entertained so I spend most of the day on the couch watching tv, not doing anything. So I really don't understand why I'm not gaining any weight. Anyone have any suggestions?

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With my first, I gained 30 altogether... I gained 10 pounds real quick in the beginning, and when I found out I was pregnant, I switched to healthier foods [I was so hungry I stuffed my face like crazy].  I then lost the 10 pounds.  With my second, I don't think it was until the 5th month that I started gaining weight, and I only gained 20 pounds overall.  My doctor never said anything to me, either time, but strangers and family members acted like my baby's fingers and toes were going to shrivel up and fall off while still inside of me.  Your situation can't be THAT unheard of- I had a friend that only lost weight and didn't gain anything because she was a little overweight to begin with; her son is big, strong and healthy 2 years later, and she's much thinner and happier now!I'm a fitness buff, so I don't focus much on gaining weight!  But please don't feel discouraged that your doctor's making you feel like you're doing something wrong.  If you are eating, what else can you really do?  Your metabloism naturally speeds up while you're pregnant, and every pregnancy can be/will be different- which she should have learned in school.  You should be picking up some extra pounds here soon, because that baby will start getting bigger [it still may be a few weeks].  Just tell your doctor what you're doing and how concerned you are as the mother, and hopefully she'll give you some useful advice.
I have had this happen to me as well.  Not  10 lbs but 5 lbs.  I am on my 4th pregnancy.  With my first I gained 60 lbs (which was too much weight), with my second I kept gaining and losing the same 10 lbs, with my third I had the same thing I gained and lost the same 10 lbs.  With my current pregnancy I have lost and gained the same 5 lbs.  My doctor said that as long as the baby is growing there is no set weight that I need to gain.  I don't think your doctor is going to yell at you.   My doctor also said that when you get pregnant you start to eat healthier so then you lose weight from eating healthier.  Eventually your body will equal itself out.  Also just to gain weight I wouldn't go completely unhealthy, because that will make you gain the wrong kind of weight.  Most of the weight you gain during pregnancy is the baby, the placenta, the fluid the baby is in, and your breasts getting bigger.  I would actually bring this up to my doctor.  You will not get yelled at.   If they think the baby isn't growing then they will tell you.  I hope that this has helped.
i completely understand how you are feeling! I am 29 weeks pregnant with my first baby and I have only gained 2 lbs, it was 3 but I lost one at my last dr.'s apt. Don't stress about gaining the weight, I get ultrasounds every 3 weeks to make sure the baby is continuing to grow. Other than that my Dr doesn't seem overly concerned, they will know if something is wrong with the baby. Every pregnancy is different and not all women gain a bunch of weight. Sorry it's not really advice to help gain, but maybe it will help settle your nerves about it. :)

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