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I want to feed my baby breast milk without latching on,

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I am 9 weeks pregnant, and I know I want to feed my baby breast milk, But I don't actually want my baby to latch on. I this weird??? Have any other mommy's done this??

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I kinda felt this way too when I was pregnant the first time.  I knew breastmilk is best for babies so I wanted them (twins) to have breastmilk but I felt weird about breastfeeding.  You didn't say *why* you feel this way but for me breasts have been made to be sexual and it seemed like a weird weird concept to have a baby sucking away there.  ANyways my husband was supportive of breastfeeding (which I have read is a huge factor in how successful you are.. like if he thought it was weird I might have felt more weird or something) and I tried it out and as soon as I started doing it it didn't seem weird and it seemed very natural.  Plus pumping SUCKS.. breastfeeding is way easier and more convenient and I think once you try it out you might feel differently about it.  I really encourage you to try it and give it a few days.  Don't stress out about how you feel about it now!
I kinda felt this way too when I was pregnant the first time.  I knew breastmilk is best for babies so I wanted them (twins) to have breastmilk but I felt weird about breastfeeding.  You didn't say *why* you feel this way but for me breasts have been made to be sexual and it seemed like a weird weird concept to have a baby sucking away there.  ANyways my husband was supportive of breastfeeding (which I have read is a huge factor in how successful you are.. like if he thought it was weird I might have felt more weird or something) and I tried it out and as soon as I started doing it it didn't seem weird and it seemed very natural.  Plus pumping SUCKS.. breastfeeding is way easier and more convenient and I think once you try it out you might feel differently about it.  I really encourage you to try it and give it at least a few days!
I felt the same with my first also.  I wasn't even sure I was going to breastfeed until an hour after he was born and they told me that I needed to decide!  I went ahead and did it and was surprised at how natural it felt.  It would be possible to just pump and feed baby that way but you'll find yourself tied down to that pump more than you would just feeding your little one.  You can consider just pumping and supplementing with formula if that would be more convenient.  I would just recommend that you go to a breastfeeding class or educate yourself on the basics of it and then try it out.  I ended up loving this part of me and my baby's bonding and always think women should at least give it a try!  Congratulations Mommy!  BTW--don't let anyone make you feel bad if you don't--there are a lot of breastfeeding bullies out there and you are in no way a bad mother if you decide it isn't right for you and your baby!
I felt the same way!!  I felt like breasts were a sexual thing, and it seemed creepy to have a baby latching on to them.  When the baby was born, the nurse helped me, and from the first time the baby latched it--it's totally different.  I told my husband that it just feels like you have built-in bottles that the baby feeds from. 
First of all your only 9 weeks pregnant. You have a long time to bond with this baby feel him/her move and get used to the idea of breastfeeding. When you have the baby you may feel the same as you do now or feel way different either way there are options you can pump, breastfeed, combination, or just use formula. Breastmilk is the best thing for your baby. I pumped for mine for 8 months because of medical reasons and it was so hard to pump and feed the baby I felt it would have been a lot easier to just breast feed.
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