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Is it right for a Mother to swearing around her kids
My wife and I disagree about her swearing front of our boys age 24 and 14 yr. old. I do not think it's right no matter what their ages. She doesn't think anything is wrong with it. I think it tell them this behavior is alright. by the way, she's 50 yrs. old and I think she's trying to be their friend, 'pal' rather than Mother.
I think the question comes down to if ya'll have the same vision, beliefs and wants for the outcome of raising these children. It may not bother her if they swear , wheras that is a concern of yours so I think it starts with agreeing onthe final outcome
my parents and I swear around each other sometimes (I'm 23,and they are in their 40's) but I also know how and when to be polite to others,and when it's allowed and such. Don't get me wrong, we dont just walk around the house using the F word constantly or anything,but sometimes it will slip out in conversation. I'm expecting my first child this December, and will definatley be watching my language around my little one.
ok so in my opinion I think its wrong... not matter the age.. Sure if it slips out now and then is one thing... BUT this weekend went to a friends house whos parents swear a lot even around the kids... My husband was telling me about the little sister of our friend who has a BAD potty mouth! she is 14 and I heard this for myself! I couldnt believe it! We both agreed our son will NEVER be aloud to do this like her! It is disrespectful no matter the age!
ok so in my opinion I think its wrong... not matter the age.. Sure if it slips out now and then is one thing... BUT this weekend went to a friends house whos parents swear a lot even around the kids... My husband was telling me about the little sister of our friend who has a BAD potty mouth! she is 14 and I heard this for myself! I couldnt believe it! We both agreed our son will NEVER be aloud to do this like her! It is disrespectful no matter the age and who it is your talking to!
When your kids are that old and she is in her 50's I think that is fine. My mom use to do it to us all the time and we still do it. I see nothing wrong with it. You can't protect them from swearing when they are at school or their friends anymore.
I am trying to cut back on my swearing now because I personally don't think it's right. Kids catch on to things parents say/do that makes them believe its right or OK. Once the kids are adults, they can decide on their own. In the meantime, I don't think it's right for kids to hear either parent.
There seems to be a lot more to this situation than you're letting on. You say she swears and you think she's trying to be their friend rather than their mother. How is she showing this? Just by swearing? Or is she showing them different treatment than a mother would to her son? Like buying alcohol for him and his friends, or doing things that just aren't "motherly".If it's just swearing, you have nothing to worry about, imo. You can't protect your children forever. One is already and adult. The other is nearly there. Your wife's swearing should be the least of your worries. :)
I personally never swore around my parents when I did swear. I felt it was disrespectful. However they swore around me my whole life and it seemed a little hypocritical to be told not to do something they did all the time. You can't protect your children forever and one is grown therefore he makes his own decisions. I can see your point about thinking its ok because they hear it from her. It sounds like you're more worried about her being their friend instead of their mother and with good cause. It never turns out good when a parent does that. Thats how my mother was and I ended up with a baby at 16. I would just talk with her. Good luck! :)