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No sex drive

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I am 26 years old and tomorrow I will be officially 20 weeks. Although I am very excited about hitting this wonderful milestone, I am a little concerned that I have no sex drive whatsoever. The idea of sex just doesn't interest me at all. It's been like this for a few weeks. I heard that during certain stages of pregnancy us women will not have one for a little bit, but I don't know how long it lasts.

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I think it's different for everyone. When I was pregnant with my girls I wanted it all the time. When I was pregnant with my son I didn't want it at all. I think it just depends on the person and the pregnancy. I wouldn't let it bother you too bad because it might get better soon. I hope this helps. :) Good luck.
I am 28 weeks and feel the same.  Every person is different and I want to do it more if I feel more emotionally connected with my hubby.  I didn't think I'd have any sex drive as I had none whatsoever when I was on the pill.  But you still find a way to do it.We went 4 weeks without intercourse and though it drove my hubby crazy he said he still felt close to me and connected to me which is great.   We always kiss and touch and that helps sometimes start things.  Communication is the key if you have problems with your partner understanding.
I know the feeling... I am 27 weeks and have really had a lack of sex drive with this pregnancy too... it depends on the person and the pregnancy.. With our daughter I was always wanting it but this time around with our son I coudl really care less as bad as that sounds... it usually helps if we do alot more foreplay before hand.. that is really the only suggestion that I have.. he has tried to be understanding and I try to compromise and have sex once a week for him and the foreplay does help me get more in the mood but its alot different then before when we had sex almost daily lol.. just make sure that you talk to him and make him understand I hope that things get better for you hun but remember make sure to try to compromise some for him now becuase once baby comes you have atleast 6 weeks when you cant do anything even if you want to =)
Thank you ladies for your insight!!! Glad to know I am not the only one out there feeling like this right now. I don't live with the father and maybe thats the cause but also on the same token, I really don't get excited about him at all. I am just repulsed by him as awful as that sounds. I hate to say it about him but I just don't feel it anymore. I'm in the "I could care less" aspect of sex. I hope everyhting goes well for all of you ladies!!! Thank you again~~~
Actually my husband is not into it either.. He is scared that when we do that he will kick lol... For me its more of the i dont want to cause i dont feel attractive, not use to all the weight ive gained and the way my body has changed.
I'm 26 weeks pregnant and feel the same way. With our son it was just the first trimester that I didn't feel like doing anything cause I felt sick all the time. This time around though I haven't wanted to do anything for a couple months but still do to keep my husband happy
i have a huge sex drive all i want is to have some yummy hot sex
it feels so good
What is sex? 
Everyone is different. I had no sex drive while pregnant, and still don't even at 6 months post partum (I'm breastfeeding).


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