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18month old HATES diaper changes - argh!

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My 18-month-old son has recently decided that he HATES diaper changes. We've had the same routine for months now: he wakes up, he gets a diaper change. He has a poop, he gets a diaper change. Ultimately, he gets maybe 4 diapers a day, tops. Recently, though, every time I try to change his diaper, it's like I've suddenly declared war. He screams, he arches his back, he twists and turns and attempts to fling himself off the changing table. I changed one diaper today while he was hanging off the table, just because I had him pinned and it was easier to wipe his butt that way! Have I hit the 2s early? Is this just a phase? Help!

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i never put my daughter on the changing table to change her diaper, we just changed her on the floor, or sofa with her on a plastic mat to keep germs from spreading. give him a toy to play with while you change him. it's normal. he doesn't want to stop playing or having fun long enough to get a clean butt. a lot of boys don't mind being dirty. have you considered potty training him early?
Good to know it's normal, all the wiggling!  I've thought about early potty-training, but I just don't think he's ready.  I could probably get him to do the poops, but only because I recognize when he's doing one, not because he gives me any warning.  We also may be moving in the next three months, and if we do, I'd rather wait until the move is complete as I understand big changes like that can cause a regression.
Congrats, he hates diapers! That is one of his signs he is ready for potty training. My daughter was the same way at that age. Ever give him a diaper to look at/play with while you are changing him? Sometimes that helps or let him hold a clean wipe.
I worked with 1-2 year olds in a child care center for 10 years.  I know what you're going through.  He can probably sense your stress about the move and is testing his boundaries to see where his "safety net" is.  Be calm and firm with him about your expectations during diaper changes: You need him to lay still so he is safe and healthy.  Try having a toy or book handy that you can give to him if he is acting appropriately.  Talk to him about the fun thing (reading a book, going to the park, eating lunch, etc.) that you can do afterward.  Make sure you tell him how much more time you will have for the fun thing if he makes the diaper change go quickly.  Make sure you praise him for a job well done!I also agree that he may be ready (though this is a bit early) to be introduced to the potty.  Let him try as long as he seems comfortable doing it.  I like introducing a regular toilet, not a potty seat.  Get a stool so he can get up and down on his own.  Don't be surprised if he regresses when you move.  Think of this as a "trial period".Good luck!
as for getting him to poop on the potty, that's great! i have read that in some asian cultures parents begin to poop train their children at 12 months. poop is far more predictable than urine. also, you eliminate the future war of him refusing to poop on the toilet. just think about it.
My now 15 month old has HATED diaper changes since the day he was born. When he was a newborn, he would cry. When he was 3 months, he learned to roll over. Now he is 15 months... And when I go to wrap up the old diaper, he just stands on up and decides to walk away naked. Its normal... All babies hate the idea of being confined for any amount of time. They know they can move, so they want to run!! Maybe your child will be an early potty-user! Good luck hun.

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