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20-month not speaking

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my 20 month old stooped saying words that he used to say and now just SCREAMS for whatever he wants..grr.. i have had doctors AND educators look and evaluate him, and they all agree on the same thing-he is behind(to top all that off he was born 8 weeks early) any suggestions on how to get him to speak? I WANT him to start talking. No, I'm not crazy. This for me would be huge! I'm anxious to have 'conversations' with my little guy

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have you taken him to a neurologist? if his ped is saying that he is behind, he should have reccomended one. is he showing any signs of autism? have you looked into speach therapy? read a lot of books. i read atleast 15 to my daughter a day. she would love nothing more than to sit in my lap and read all day long.
Turn off the TV!  Give him books, flash cards with number, letters and colors.  work with him.  Like Pinkpaisley said kids love to sit on mommies lap to read.
Our son started speech therapy at 18 months. He was not saying any words. He is now 2 1/2, he is still in speech therapy every week but is saying so many words. Now we just have to get him to say them more clearly. I would have your child evaluated through early intervention. 
my son is considered a little late too.(and since then i décided to take matters into my own hands)  so i read a lot with him (at night before bed). and ask him to repeat after me(all the time ) . it's long but it works... (after all when i ask him to repeat after me, it makes me realise that he can talk ,and the words come out great.) so now i do flash cards, in his bed, before bed, it's whole routien... so we get setteled i his bed 30 min before his real be time. (and i really garanty that i see a small improvement , and he is getting better and better). and i don't force him to say enverything on his own..i say the word : ex: plane, and i say ``say plane `` (and he says it...) so he's practicing! ...and in bed is better beacuse i have all his attention, he rather do all the things i say, instead of going straight to bed. so i get co-operation.!   (i think it just means we really have to work a little harder with them).
My daughter was a great and early talker until she learned that non-verbal communication was easier. Sh stopped talking almost completely until she was about 2 years old. On her 2nd birthday we had a little girl who was just a few months older than her and was talking in full sentences. I felt really bad about my daughter's lack of progress. But, her doctor was never concerned and she did start talking again soon after her birthday. She'll be 3 in October and I know she's behind but I can also see her progress. At this point I'm not worried about her development.If the doctors and specialists haven't offered any suggestions just do what you can. Read books with him and point out shapes, colors, animals, etc. Always talk to him, when you're doing something for him or getting something for him use the words, and try to use smaller, easy words that he should be able to say. And ask him to point out colors and objects so that you know that he knows what you're talking about.Ultimately, don't worry. This sounds like a phase and he'll probably grow out of it as soon as he learns that screaming isn't easier. You can also play dumb when screams for something. Ask him if he wants a few different things, even if you already know what he wants. That will help him understand the importance of communicating with words. It could also be that he's sort of taking a break from talking because he's more focused on developing physical skills. Keep working with him and he'll start talking again.

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