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7 Year old daughters behaviour at school
My daughter has been having trouble in school. She has been caught cheating on her spelling test twice and refusing to do Math and Reading assignments. She has been making fun of one girl in order to get another girl to like her. And she is crying to the teacher saying she has no friends and no one likes her. She doesn't talk to us about any of this and when we try and bring it up with her she storms out of the room. We have a meeting with her teacher this week to figure out some solutions. Some outside factors that may be attributing to this is me going back to work full time since September and the recent death of our dog. Other than that (which may be enough) we can not figure out why she is acting this way. She is usually very sweet, caring and compassionate and has never had trouble making friends. Now she seems to have an attitude most of the time...Any thoughts?
This sounds familiar. My daughter was in 3rd grade when I went from part-time work to full-time work, and it was a rough year for her. She acted out in similar ways, and did not seem like her typical self. I felt she was looking for attention--negative if she could not get positive--as well as expressing stress. I did a couple of things. One is that I instituted "Mother-Daughter Lunch." Every Saturday, I took her out for an inexpensive lunch, just the two of us. She knew she had this to look forward to all week...that she would have me all to herself, and get to eat out. We used that time to talk privately about how things were going at school and how she was feeling. Another thing I did was to start a mother-daughter book club. There is a post about this on my blog:http://loridayconsulting.com/wordpress/mother-daughter-book-clubs-enrich-reading-and-relationships/Perhaps the thing that helped most was time. She did get used to me working, and settled down after the first year. She actually came to respect my job and be proud of me (I was a school administrator, so she understood what I was doing). I let her hang around my school after she got out of her school at the end of the day. I realize many parents can't bring their kids to work, but if you can, and can give them some special little jobs to do, it helps.It sounds like you're doing a good job following up in all of the ways you can. Stay the course, find some ways to spend special alone time with your daughter, and I bet in due time she will adjust and settle down. Good luck!Lori DayEducational Psychologist and Consultantwww.loridayconsulting.com