I feel how you feel my 9 year old was always upset she cryed herself to sleep I was hoping it was only about something simple that I can fix. Not a boy or a friend. I just watched her for over a month. Her chest seemed to get bigger. Her butt kept squeezing and she was holding it I asked her if she would like to go shopping she said yes. I played happy songs on the way there. I asked her if she would like a bra she said sure. We have leather seats and she got up out of the car I looked back and I saw some blood! We went to the bathroom, I had the talk with her in the stall ( we were in the same stall) I gave her a pad and we went to justice. I gave Addie 3 sizes of training bras, 26, 28, 30. She fit best in the 28. She went out picked a couple then started to cry I was confused! Then she said I want the padded ones! I said okay we'll get one. She shouted they don't have it in my size! I was broken inside I took off her shirt and placed my hands on her boobs and she asked me to stop but I couldn't. Because I had to show her her breasts aren't that big. She went out and grabbed all size 30 bras. When I said every I ment every. Every sport, training, soft cup, bralette, strappy, and cupped. She put on a size 30A cupped bra. There was alot of padding for her. But she liked it and she stoped crying. I would do anything to keep my kids happy so I let her get 10 bras. I know what's a lot but it's worth it I let her get any bra she wanted. Then we passed Vitoria secret. She saw bras. She ran in and grabbed a bomb shell bra but it on and said mommy it fits I had to say baby no I can't. That made her happy though so just try to get your child a padded bra. They won't wear it they'll just wear it once to show off then they'll forget about it and wear it when they acually grow boobs.