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anyone homeschool?

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It's early, but I'm thinking about possibly homeschooling our kids. I'd love to get some firsthand accounts of what it's like to homeschool and maybe get some advice on what to do and where to begin. Thanks!

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I'm sorry you didn't get any answer to your question so far, and I cannot provide you with one either. But since the thread is open, may I ask: why are you considering homeschooling?As a super-successful product of public education myself (and my husband and all his family - I mention them because they are Americans, I'm not), I firmly believe homeschooling is a bad idea for several reasons. First, as educated and smart as you may be, there's no way you're an expert in everything a child needs to be taught, and you're not trained as an educator - unless you are a teacher by profession, in which case you might as well enroll your kids in your class and be done with it. There's a reason why medical procedures are performed by doctors, houses are built by masons and classes are taught by teachers - there's a level of expertise needed that people are specifically trained for. Second, even if you do get the education part mostly right, there's no substitute to a class and a playground to the social integration and training your kids will get in school. School is much more than a place where kids learn the "standard" things. It's where they learn about themselves, their likes, dislikes and talents, where they get exposed to new ideas, people and attitudes, where they get inspired and curious during the learning process, where they learn to follow formal rules, work in a team and be part of a social structure. I'm not saying you cannot provide some version of this kind of more subtle learning at home, you already are actually, but it's a much more limited one that what they'll get at school.If specifically the interaction with very different people and exposure to "out-there" ideas that you might consider wrong or even dangerous is what concerns you, think again: would you like your kids to accept views and principles only because they're the only ones they know, or because you raised them properly with these principles and won them over because these principles are actually right and worth to abide to? From my personal experience, the mainstream political attitudes of the society and school I grew up with never won over the super-progressive principles my parents raised me with. Neither did the religious uptightness of the town my husband grew up in ever won over his liberal upbringing.And to share an example of homeschooling from real life, one of my best friends in grad school was homeschooled, and I was lucky to meet all his family at some point. I noticed that both him and all his siblings were super-smart and knowledgeable (well, at least the older 2 are phD's in mathematics), but in a very narrow area. His lovely and super-intelligent mum, who was a doctor by training and briefly by profession, even though she did a great job in all other areas, didn't manage to distill her love and appreciation of art and literature to her sons, who were practically illiterate in such matters. That's something they wouldn't have been able to get away with in a normal school. All of them were also quite narrow minded and socially awkward, and found it hard to handle the exposure to the "big, wide world" later on in life, sticking to what I call a "within a block of known stuff" existence.Sorry if I tired you with this tirade, I just hope I gave you a little food for thought. Your kids' education is an enormous decision, and I wish you all the best!
My main reason for considering homeschooling my children is because they are very intelligent. My fear is that they will be ahead of public school kids their age and won't get enough mental stimulation from their schooling. We cannot afford private schools and since I'm already a stay at home mom this seems like a good option.We live in the Albuquerque Public School sytem which does not have mandatory kindergarten and has no early enrollment option for kindergarten. My daughter's birthday is in October which falls after the "birthday cutoff" for school registration so she would not be starting school until just before she turns 6. We have the option of enrolling her a year early in first grade but starting school at 6 just seems like it's too late. She just turned 3 and she's already learning how to read and write. Even if we could afford preschool for three years I just don't know that it would give her what she needs.Homeschooling is not what it used to be. There are numerous options available for parents so that the main burden of education isn't provided solely by the parent's knowledge. There are online resources from actual teachers. They provide lesson plans and materials and kids can get a traditional, well-rounded education regardless of their parent's knowledge or education level. The education can be designed specifically for the child's intelligence, interests and is paced at a rate that is appropriate for that child.I have a friend who homeschools her children. Her daughter will be graduating high school at 16 and will enter college as a sophomore. Her son is also a couple of years ahead of kids his age. Her children have the freedom to pursue their own interests outside of schooling and able to take professional level ballet classes during the day when they would normally be in school. They do school year-round and can get through two grade levels per year if they choose to work that hard.As far as social interaction goes, there are plenty of options for that outside of school. Dance and music lessons, sports, Girl/Boy Scouts, etc. Plus we have neighbors and many friends with children the same ages as ours. The social aspect is the least of my worries. Getting my kids a quality education is my main concern.
Yes, I am considering homeschooling. My son looks to be about the age of your daughter, so I haven't started anything formal yet. I'm just in the research stage right now.I can't believe you are from Albuquerque. That is where I live as well. I know there are several homeschool groups in the area, though I haven't looked into them yet.When the idea to homeschool first entered my head, I immediately began to research. Type homeschooling into a search engine and you will be flooded with information.Since I'm not really into full swing myself, I can't give you advice about what to do, but I've basically formed my plan of attack by reading what other people are doing (by reading forums and blogs). There are sites that review curriculum and sites dedicated to the various methods of homeschooling.I myself am drawn to classical education, so I visit the Well Trained Mind forum a lot.I've been reading about homeschooling for the past year, basically just learning everything I can to determine whether it is a realistic option for my family.

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