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are teens capable of being responsible parents?

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Of course. There are people who will generalize them and say that teens make terrible parents. This may be more likely as they do not have as much life experience, but there are always a few who can and will defeat the stereotypes of society. So, yes teens most definetly are capable of being responsible parents.
I say yes too. Teens can be capable parents, but there is alot stacked against them. To any teen I would encourage them to wait. There are alot of responsibilities raising a child and for a teen it can be especially difficult due to all they have going on.
 I think it depends on how old the teen is. A 13-16 year old is capable but not likely. A 17-19 year old has more of a chance. I am the only female so far in my family that didn't have a baby at 19 and all my sisters are great parents and both are single moms. My mom had me at 19 and is a single mom as well. Her mom also had her at 19 and did great. I have 2 more sisters at 13 and 17. Let's hope they wait to have kids too although they would be great moms as well if they had a teen baby. 
I think that teens can be loving parents, but being a teen parent is by it's very definition irresponsible (unless you're 18+, out of high school, and working). Almost all teen parents live with their own parents and just couldn't get by without their help... and frankly, if you HAVE to rely on your parents just to put a roof over your head, you've got no business raising children of your own.Also, the younger a girl is when she gets pregnant, the less and less likely she is to ever marry the child's father. Only 9% of teen moms end up married to the father of their child(ren), and even fewer stay married. 
i was 17 when i got pregnant and 18 when my daughter was born im now 20 years old and in college working on finding a job so yea SOME teenagers can be responsible parents not all but some
I think it's a case by case thing. I've met teen moms who had traumatic childhoods and were determined and completly dedicated to providing a better life for their own children. I have also met teen moms who are just like a typical teenager, immature, selfish, lazy and really don't want to be bothered raising their babies and completly rely on others to do it.I was a teen mom. I had my son at 17, fast foreward 7 years and we're doing great. When I was a single mom, I had to work 40+ hours a week just to have the money to take care of us. I went to night school so I could graduate and my little man was with me every step of the way!Teenagers cannot understand the full consequences of their actions. But I don't think it has any affect on their ability to love and raise a child. Growing up is hard enough, good teen moms do it over night. You put your best foot foreward and try to make the right choices for your family, you will make mistakes...but don't all new parents regaurdless of age?I think MTV does a fantastic job of glamorizing teen parents. But in reality, you have a baby and nobody hands you a car and paycheck and says "goodluck!". You have to figure out how to provide, learn to only count on yourself, and if your lucky you have a support group to help you through the hard times.
I am the daughter of a mother who was 17 when she had me, and I can say that she has been a good mom. My dad was 22 when I was born, they got married, and raised me and 15 months later, my sister. I will say this though, she sacrificed (my father did as well) her childhood, and I feel like it hurt HER being a teen parent more than it has hurt me. You cannot get back your youth, and some young parents (and I know plenty) feel resentment towards their children because of the sacrifices they have had to make in order to raise them properly.
I'm 19 and my daughter is 6 months old. I can honestly say that i love being a mother and i am a very responsible. I coulden't imagine my life without my little zoe now, she gives me so much inspiration to to good in life for her. On the other hand i know several 15 year olds that dont even know who the father of their child is and it makes me so sad for them.
BOTTOM LINE-TEENS WANT TO DO TEEN STUFF, AND THAT DOESNT INCLUDE CHANGING POOPY DIAPERS, AND WARMING UP BOTTLES AT 3 AM. MOST TIMES, THE TEEN'S PARENTS RAISE THE BABY, DUE TO MANY DIFFERENT REASONS. HOW CAN YOU WORK, GO TO HIGH SCHOOL, AND TAKE CARE OF A BABY ON YOUR OWN? YOU CAN'T! THERE ARE NOT ENOUGH HOURS IN A DAY. SIMPLE AS THAT. NO, TEEENS ARE NOT CAPABLE OF BEING RESPOSIBLE PARENTS. PERIOD.
To become a teen parent is special but also brings along lots of responsibilities at a young age. To be a teen parent is not easy, its requires supports from other family member. There should be someone who should guide. Many school districts have special programs to help teen parents. Some have programs for pregnant teens and teen mothers that include child care for babies while the teen mom goes to school. Some larger school districts have programs with flexible hours. These programs make it easier for teen parents to work and still go to school. Call your school district to find out if there is a program near you. School is important for teen parents. The teen parents need to finish high school, graduation to get better job opportunity. Guidelines for Teen Parents - http://www.greatdad.com/tertiary/343/2373/teen-parents.html

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