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I have a 1 year old and the subject of having another is starting to creep up in my mind. I love my son and want to enjoy him as much as I can before we expand our family, but I can't help feeling anxious over the idea of having another. My son was born 3 weeks early as they had to induce me as they believed I was showing the early signs of preeclampsia. Also, no one in my family had been able to carry a single baby boy to term. My mother's first child was stillborn, a boy. With that family history I think the doctors were very cautious.I did not have high expectations for my delivery. I just wanted both of us to be happy and healthy, but I wanted to do it vaginally and I wanted to nurse him. Well unfortunately, I could not do either. I ended up having an emergency c-section and I didn't start even producing milk until he was a week old. I had him latched on when he was 30 minutes old, like a dream but my body just wouldn't give him anything. I tried for about a month, pumping every 4 hours or so. Tried herbal tea, meds to try to start lactation, but nothing worked. I was only getting about 10ml combined every 4 hours at most. I gave him what I could, but when your baby is hungry and you can't meet his needs...I was just so heart broken. Between the c-section and not being able to really nurse him I felt/ feel like a failure. So my question, Should I even try to nurse with the next baby or should I just avoid the mental/ emotional havoc and yield to the bottle? I can not express how much of a failure I felt not being able to do the two things I felt should be instinctual.
I would try. I wasn't able to nurse my first, and it was very difficult for me. I tried hard with my second, but with little supposrt it was just too difficult. I was determined to make it work with my third, but her tongue thrust reflex was extremely strong and she could only drink from a bottle. I pumped for 6 months and was able to give her what she needed, as well as store 3300 ounces of milk in the freezer. It wasn't a perfect solution, but I know I did what was best for both of us. If breastfeeding is something you feel this strongly about, definitely try again. You won't regret trying, but you might regret not trying.
I would talk to a lactation consultant for sure. You would need to be breastfeeding as soon after birth as possible. It took about five days for my milk to come in, but you want to already be breastfeeding as often as possible. Herbs have really increased my milk production. Try using Breastea from http://www.breastea.com and drink daily.