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Daycare Guilt.

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I had my baby in January and took a 12 week leave. This week is my first week back at work. I found a great daycare two blocks from my office building. I have this guilt about leaving her, though. I'm not worried about her safety because I trust the center. I feel guilty because 1)I like my job and am glad to be back at work but 2)I feel bad that I am not with her all day like I was for the first 12 weeks of her life. Being a stay-at-home mom is not an option for me, but I miss my baby girl. I feel like I don't et to snuggle her enough now!

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DOn't worry, that feeling is normal. I am a stay at home mom and i tear up at the THOUGHT of leaving her in daycare- but i look forward to it as well. your baby knows you love her and because you got to spend a good amount of uninterrupted time with her she's ok. the daycare center should be good for her too, in developing her social skills and acclimation to new people and places. you should like your job, and why not be happy to be back? we all need fulfillment outside of the task of motherhood. don't 'feel bad' that you are not with her all day, you are doing what you have to do in order to take care of her so take comfort in that. 
If the daycare is close to your office, can you drop by for lunch breaks?  When I first put my daughters in daycare, I would let myself scroll through pics of them and that made me feel better.
Wow, I'm on the same boat. I had my son in January and I stayed 13 weeks and recently returned back to work. I think most mom feel that way. Luckily, my mom takes care of my son but I still feel that feeling. It's hard to think that I may not be there for his first crawl, stand, anything. I personally try to stay positive and keep reassuring myself that I'm working to give my son a good life. That always helps me =)
I think it's great that you work near the daycare center so you are able to spend as much time with your baby as possible. Don't feel bad about enjoying your job! If you know it's a good daycare center then your baby will be stimulated and taken care of. It is, of course, important for babies to have a good attachment to their parents and spend a lot of time with them, but there are benefits to daycare. This is a great way for your baby to socialize with other children and learn. I read something recently about babies in daycare having strong immune systems because they are exposed to germs from other kids (which is a good thing) that they may not otherwise be exposed to. 

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