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does anyone have any tips for letting baby 'cry it out' at naptime?

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i am a new mom to a 3 month old baby girl. she sleeps through the night in her crib since about 9 weeks of age (with an occasional bad night here and there). ((at bedtime, after her bedtime bottle-i nurse all day long but we give her a bottle of breastmilk at bedtime-i rock her then hold her for 45 minutes to an hour, then put her in her crib.)) but we are having trouble at naptime. she usually takes a short nap in the morning in between her 1st and 2nd feedings; i hold her since it's a short nap. then after her lunchtime feeding, i rock her to sleep, then hold her for about an hour to make sure she's good and asleep-which i know i need to shorten the amount of time i hold her too, then i put her in her crib. it never fails... she'll sleep for maybe 30 minutes, then wake up crying. i know she's ok.. she's been fed, changed, etc. she just wants to be held. last week we started letting her cry it out in her crib. she cries off and on for at least 40ish minutes before going back to sleep (if she even goes back to sleep) and doesn't stay asleep very long. the last 2 days, we've picked her up after 20 or 30 minutes (we have a mobi video monitor so we can watch to make sure she's not hurt.) it's extremely difficult to listen to her cry and it doesn't seem to be working. while i am a stay at home mom, i can't continue to hold her for hours while she naps during the day. please help!! any suggestions are appreciated. ((also, the only reason we started the 'cry it out' method now-at 3 months-was b/c i felt like if we waited any longer, the problem would only get worse))

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Unfortunately, just as soon as you *think* you have your baby's schedule all figured out, it WILL change! You said she is sleeping for an hour in your arms, then 30 minutes in the crib before waking up crying in the afternoon. Mom, she's trying to tell you she's done napping. A 90 minute nap sounds like her new "norm". "Crying it out" is a technique best used up front at the beginning of sleep, not at the end. Instead of holding her for an hour in the afternoon, put her in her crib after 15 minutes. As she grows, her sleeping patterns will change. It also sounds like you are "training" her to nap while you hold her. It's up to you to reverse that pattern or else it will fast become her normal routine.
Having a baby nap in your arms for such a long time probably isn't the best. But it sounds like you understand that. My son slept through the night from about 1 month old til 4 or 5 months. During the day he would take short naps- 30 minutes or so. I believe it was because he slept so well at night.I would highly rec. putting your daughter down tired but awake. This will evetually turn into her learning to self soothe and go to sleep on her own. When she falls asleep in your arm and then gets moved to her crib she probable wakes up disoriented. Imagine you going to bed with your pillow under your head only to wake up later after your husband stole it from you. You'd prob be disoriented and maybe pretty annoyed. This is kind of what she could be going through. Asleep in your arms only to wake up in a completely different place.My best suggestion would be to feed her and put her in her crib immediately. Play some music or give her a soft blankie. Don't make too much fuss or commotion when you say good night and leave. At that point the "cry it out" would begin if she started crying.

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