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GOING THROUGH A CUTODY BATTLE

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I WANTED TO KNOW IF IM FIGHTING FOR CUSTODY OF MY SON AND THE FATHER DOES NOT TAKE CARE OF MY SON AND DOES NOT TAKE HIM TO THE DOCTOR'S NOR WATHCES WHAT MY SON GETS IN TO AND LETS HIM GET SCRATCHES AND BIG CUTS AND WHEN HE IS SICK DOES NOT TAKE CARE OF HIM EITHER IS IT BAD ON MY EX BOYFRIEND IN COURT ? WILL THE JUGDE GIVE MY SON BACK TO ME IF I HAVE EVIDENTS THAT HE IS NOT TAKING CARE OF YM CHILD AND LEAVES MY CHILD WITH WHOM EVER HE PLEASES ?

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You will need a lot of evidence to prove that this is happening.  They probably will not believe you if you just go in and say all this stuff. They are going to want proof.
From what you've described, I'm not sure your ex is an unfit parent. Cuts, scrapes, bruises, etc. are normal parts of a child's life. Kids trip and fall, all kinds of things happen. Unless your son has had stitches multiple times I doubt a judge will care much about small injuries.If your ex isn't taking your son for regular checkups and isn't getting him immunizations that you want him to have, not taking him to the doctor probably isn't a big deal either. I don't take my kids to the doctor when they're sick unless they're so sick they can't eat or drink. In three years my daughter has only been once for a non-routine checkup. Most illnesses do not need to be treated with anitbiotics or prescription medications, so there's really no need to take a child to the doctor. And as long as your ex isn't leaving your son with dangerous or neglectful people, that shouldn't be a concern either. I'd love to be able to drop my kids off at a friend's house so that I had the ability to run some errands alone or just so that I could have some time to myself.Unless you have a lot of proof that your ex is a neglectful parent and have other people who aren't related to you to back up that evidence, it's not likely that a judge will grant you sole custody. In all honesty, from what you've described it just sounds like you and your ex have different parenting styles. That doesn't automatically make him an unfit parent.

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