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HAving a hard time!!!!!!!!!!

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MY MOTHER IN LAW IS DRIVING ME CRAZY!!!!!!!!! IDK WHAT TO DO WITH HER! SHE IS SAYING SHE NEVER SEES MY SON BUT THE TRUTH IS I ALWAYS TELL HER TO COME WHENEVER JUST CALL TO MAKE SURE HE ISNT SLEEPING AND WE ARE HOME I DONT THINK ITS A LOT TO ASK! SHE IS SAYING TONS MORE IM JUST SOOOOOOO MAD BRINGING A SICK DOG INTO IT AND HER 13 YEAR OLD DAUGHTER I MEAN REALLY??????????? ME AND MY HUSBAND ARE GETTING REALLY SICK OF IT! AND SHE DOESNT HAVE THE NERVE TO CALL OR COME OVER SHE IS WRITING ON MY FB PAGE!

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Your MIL may not feel comfortable coming over uninvited, and may consider "just calling first" to be inviting herself, which a lot of people consider to be rude.  Have you ever tried inviting her over to play with her grandson at a specific day and time?  I'm not sure where the sick dog comes into it (your dog?  her dog? the daughter's dog), but it's totally within your rights to allow animals into your home or not.  If it's her dog and you don't want it over, state that.  If it's your dog and she has issues, ignore them. 
I would invite her over at a specific day and time. I know I've said pretty much the same thing to lots of friends about getting together and they never make the commitment. You arrange a visit and then see what happens. She should have nothing to complain about then.
I have invited her over, not a lot tho. BUT for good reasons! She takes a lot of meds, I believe she abuses them and she acts very strange and sometimes when she holds Bentley she trips and almost drops him! I dont want my son around that at all. the sick dog is their family dog, saying oh im going thru so much having to take care of her and decideing to put her down or not blaming my husband for NOT being there b ut the truth is that he has paid for her to go to the vet muti times (very expensice for the test) and goes down to visit, we were down there last thursday! I have told her a MILLION times just call whenever youd like to come down to make sure we are home and he isnt sleeping and she can come down, I have told her she can come down everyday if she wants but never comes and when I call her she never answers her phone, I try with her but nothing
I think you should talk to your husband about all this. Talk to him & see if he will set up a playdate thing with his mother. I hope you are not the one primarily dealing with her cuz that could make you more stressed & frustrated. & if you are worried about her abusing her meds or just how they make her act thats definitely something to talk to your husband about. Especially if she has almost dropped your son a few times. You (YOUR HUSBAND) should put a foot down & she shouldnt be allowed to walk around while holding him, its too dangerous apparently. Maybe she's jealous of the time you get with her son & grandson & is acting vey childishly because of that idk but if something is happening that involves your chiuld that makes you uncomfortable talk to you hubby & make sure its delt with. This is your & his turn to start a family so the two of you need to take charge together. I hope things get better! i know how it is to have probs with you mother in law.
I suggest your husband grow up and deal with his mother.  Sounds like you've tried and it has been frustrating for everyone.  Let him deal with her so you can regain your sanity and enjoy your baby.

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