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At this point he shouldn't be waking up at night. My son was a really fast grower so he was always waking up to eat and eventually it just became a habit for him. He wasn't hungry, he was just used to waking up to spend time with me. Wean your son off the nighttime feedings. Give him a little bit of water instead of nursing him and he'll understand that nighttime isn't for meals. It'll be difficult at first, he won't like it. But he'll adjust. Once he does adjust, make sure you aren't taking him out of his crib to comfort him. Sit next to his crib if he needs some comfort, but don't talk to him too much and just keep him in there. Rub his back to calm him. It may take a week or two but he'll get used to the new routine and soon he should be sleeping through the night.
My son is 22 months old, and he's just now getting the hang of sleeping through the night and is doing it more frequently. While I agree that you should try to start weaning him off the nighttime feedings (or at least narrow it down to a single feeding during the night), I'm going to tell you that if he doesn't sleep through the night until he's older, it's not that unusual. (I've heard stories about 3-year-olds who can't sleep through the night!) One thing to keep in mind, particularly since you're breastfeeding. Your son equates you with food (and other things, but mostly food). If you are the primary caregiver during those nighttime feedings, you may have to switch with your partner, because if you try to go into your son's room and NOT feed him, it's not going to end well. If your partner goes in, however - and especially if your partner does not have mammary glands - your son may be less likely to demand a feeding, and more likely to go back to sleep with just a quick cuddle and a kiss. Another thing you can do is to try to bulk him up before he goes down to bed. My son's dinner is at 6pm, with bedtime at 8 or shortly thereafter. At 7.45, he gets a sippy of milk (usually around 7 ounces). He is gently reminded to drink the milk until it's bedtime (and he can even drink it through his bath), right up to when he brushes his teeth. I've found that this sippy generally cuts down his hunger pains in the middle of the night - or at least shoves them back to 4am, which is infinitely preferable to 2am. Good luck! And sweet dreams!
How is breastfeeding any different than being the only parent who handles nighttime wakings, feedings included? If only one person is doing, a child will equate that person with comfort and feeding.
When a child is 11 months normally the only reason the baby would wake up is for comfort or if they had a bad dream or if they ate a small dinner and got hungry. If hes not hungry and just wants comfort then sit by his bed and talk to him and let him know hes safe then say ''its time for bed I love you'' and then lay back in your bed it will let him learn that hes safe but at night time he has to sleep.