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How to convince my husband that we are ready for kids
We have been together for 6 years, married for 2. We are able to live comfortably on his income alone, but he wants to go back to school before we start a family. He comes from a broken home and I think that has a lot to do with it. He has told me in the past that he is afraid of us not working out once we have kids because that is what happened with his parents. I have been talking about starting a family for years and he knows how important it is to me. We have talked about not trying not to get pregnant but then he changes his mind. How do I make him understand that having a baby will make us stronger, not weaker, as a couple. We have a pretty darn solid relationship now but I feel like I cannot wait forever. Also, for several years now he has told me we would start in a year, then when that year went by he said one more year and now he's saying 2 more years. What do I do!?
First of all, children stress a relationship like nothing else. While having children can bring you closer together it does change the relationship. In the beginning a baby can put a wall between a husband and wife because a woman's first priority is her baby, not her husband. Children are wonderful and my husband and I definitely make an effort to constantly strengthen our relationship because of our kids. But, it's hard. And trust me, those first 6 weeks (or longer, depending on how recovery goes) after having a baby are rough on a man since he can't get any! That said, it sounds like your husband should see a therapist. It sounds like he has some pretty strong issues that are holding him back. He needs to work those out so that before he will be able to comfortable with the idea of having kids.
Personally I do not think you should have to CONVINCE yoJu spouse. It is something you should discuss. But if you have to convince them, then they areader ready!