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How do I get my 10mnth old to sleep in his crib?

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I am a single mom and a teacher who gets up at 5 am. It has been easier having my son sleep with me as opposed to getting up several times during the night to attend to him in his nursery. Now that I am able to focus on training him to sleep in his crib, how do I start? FYI the "cry it out method" is not an option for us. Thanks

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you could temporary move the crib next to your bed. but he will cry and try to get back next to you. hold his hand while he cries but tough it out. if you give in, it will just take that much longer for him to cope the night through.
there is no reason for him not to be sleeping throught the night at this age. he's certainly capable, he just doesn't want to. the problem here is that you allowed him into your bed to begin with, and it's great that you are trying to break him from it now. why is crying it out not an option? that's the best thing. continue to run to him every time he cries, and you will never have that child sleep trained. sleep training is something that you start much earlier than 10 months. it's going to be a lot harder now that you have waited so long. however, this is not an impossible task.
I always used the CIO method but if you are totaly against it, I had a friend who tried a new apporach and it took longer but worked after 3 weeks. She started with the crib right next to her and slowly moved it away from her. When he was sleeping on the other side of the room and got the hang of that (2 to 3 days) she moved the crib to his room and set up a cot for herself, she eventually would just stay in while he went to sleep the first time and left as soon as he was zonked out. She made sure to have the night time routine, and always put him down awake. When he would cry she would sing songs to him, and rub his back. No matter what you decide if you stick to it, he will eventually be sleeping through the night. I hope you find what works best
I agree, crying it out is really hard.  I tried, and couldn't do it - and besides, my son would start crying so hard, he'd go hysterical and wouldn't be ABLE to calm himself down.  What I ended up doing was a 5-10-15 minute thing.  Put your son in his crib.  Set the timer.  DO NOT go back to him before 5 minutes.  Go back, spend about a minute calming him down, whatever works.  Put him back in the crib.  Set the timer for ten minutes.  If he's crying at 10, go back, settle him down, leave the room.  Set the timer for 15 minutes.  Lather, rinse, repeat, adding five minutes every time.  (I never had to get past 20 minutes.) I also agree that having a rock-solid bedtime routine helps.  It might take a few days to discover that one book works better at bedtime than another, or that one lullaby soothes while another agitates, but once you've got it set, don't deviate from the routine for the first few weeks.  I swear, I've put my otherwise non-sleepy toddler to bed successfully just by starting the bedtime routine.   Good luck!
at 10 months old, even a pediatrition would recommend the cry it out meathod. my daughter's doc told us if she was not sleeping through the night by 6 months, let her cry it out. luckily, thanks to rice cereal in the bottle, my kid slept through the night well before then.
the crying it out method doesnt work with my child either she will cry so hard she will make herself throw up any suggestions im desprete?? 

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