You are here

Get Answers

Sometimes it's nice to get advice from experts with a lot of letter degrees behind their names, but other times, you just need to hear what another parent (with a M.O.M. behind her name) has done that has worked. You've got questions? These moms have answers.

How do I stop feuding between my daughter & her younger cousin?

2 answers
My daughter is 15 months and my niece is just one month younger, I babysit both of them almost everyday and not a day goes by without them getting into little squabbles over toys, bottles and sippy cups, and even my affection and attention...Its hard because my Ariel is the only child I have and my niece Bella has a complicated family life (to say the least) so both are spoiled to begin with. I feel so torn because sometimes I feel like I'm depriving my daughter from my affection, but at the same time I dont want to leave Bella out in the dust. If anyone has any advice insite or tips that would be so helpful!!

answers (2)

My son is 18 months, and we regularly hang with other kids a little older and a little younger.  One thing I've noticed is that kids that age don't really play well together - or at all.  Mostly their play is a battle in who gets to hold  what toy, and to the loser goes the long screams and tears of frustration, while the winner just gives you a "What?  I didn't do it" expression. (This is, actually, exactly what just happened in my living room about 20 minutes ago between my son and his 23-month old "best friend", who see each other two or three times a week and are generally on extremely good terms.) Kids this age get into squabbles over stupid stuff.  It's because they don't understand the concept of sharing, they only know themselves and everything is THEIRS.  Your job is to be patient, try to give them both the attention they need....and have two of everything they fight over.  If you can't have two of things (like that super special toy truck or doll), if they continue to squabble over it - well, the doll obviously needs to go in time out.  And take away the doll from BOTH of them.  Direct their attentions elsewhere.  If whatever you find is entertaining enough, they're both likely to forget the doll within minutes. Good luck!
Or bring them to the park once in a while. A change of scenery might do everyone a bit of good.

*DISCLAIMER's Answers are provided by members of our community. While your fellow moms and our editors have plenty of great advice to offer based on their experience, it is not a substitute for professional medical help. Always consult a medical professional when seeking medical advice. All submitted answers are subject to the rules set forth in our Privacy Policy and Terms of Use