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how do u get 6yr to do whats right?

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have a 6yr old boy who knows right from wrong but day in day out repeats over and over behaivior he knows is not right. And he always has an excuse to why he does it. He also is lying and tells this long story on why he did something he knows he should not have done.. He also dnt care if you take things a way or make him sit on his bed or anything, He will even tell you what else you can take away and what he has left. he will tell you he knows it wrong but he really just dnt care. but acts like he understands and gets what you are saying to him but as soon as we are out of sight he just does what ver he wants and dnt care what the consquences are. please help

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Toni, I have a little bro. he is also controlless....
spank his ass. obviously, time outs are not working, and taking things away have no effect on him. you don't have many other options left at this point. with that, take everything away. leave him with the furniture in his room, and nothing more. tell him there will be no tv, computer, gaming, or toys of any kind until he decides to behave, and  you need to stick to it.
I disagree with the spanking, but that's me - and clearly, I think it's you too, because otherwise you would have done it alreay. I think you do have options.  Six year olds do by example.  What is he doing that is wrong, and is he doing it because he sees something else do it first?  Where did he get the idea to do it that way?  I'm not sure what he's doing, so I'm not sure if this solution will work, but perhaps you should consider taking away the temptation.  If he's reaching for cookies instead of the apple - take away the cookies.  If he's turning on the television instead of reading a book, take away the television.  If he's going outside when you said no: lock the door in such a way that he can't get outside. Set up an incentive scheme.  Every time he does something right, he gets rewarded.  (Yes, it's bribery.  But it's worth a try.)  It doesn't have to be with candy or toys; it can be stickers, or an extra five minutes before bedtime, or lots of verbal praise and hugs from you.  Whatever you know he enjoys: make that the reward.  Lastly: why do YOU think he's misbehaving?  Not what he says, since you say he's lying, but what does your gut say?  Is it doing it for attention?  For fun?  For boredom?  For the sheer thrill of being bad?  That might give you an idea on how to prevent it. Good luck.
I actually went to a class at my church about this kind of this with my son. There was a man there that made parents of boys understand a little bit more about how boys brains really work. As far a chemicals and brain function. As far as this research says boys at there age when they do something wrong, deep in the back of their mind they knows it wrong, but they will do it anyway because they don't understand why it is wrong. I don't know if you do but if you just tell him something is worng, give him a reason it is wrong. If he does something wrong make sure after he is punished that you ask him, do you know what it is that you did to get in trouble? Half the time I will go to get my son out of time out and ask him what he did wrong 5 minutes later and he won't remember all he will say is I was bad. Boys at his age have a hard time with processing right from wrong and even remembering what they did to get in trouble in the first place. I don't agree with the spanking thing either. That may be for some people, but I firmly believe that if you are an adult who is atleast 2 times your 5 year olds size and you have to hit them in anyway shape or form you have lost control. We tell our children hitting is wrong so why would be turn around and hit them. Doesn't make alot of sence to me.
how much of your quality time with your son is spent punishing him? i definitely sense a weak parent-child relationship here.. If this is so, you are likely to have an angry child. The joys of parenting and the stages of growing up are too precious to waste on such negative interaction. Consider changing your approach; spend a lot of time with your child just having fun. Let your child help you work around the house or run errands. Tell him you enjoy his companionship. As your child realizes how much fun it is to be with you, he will translate this into behaving well—which can be fun, too. Here are some red flags that mean you are at risk for disciplining unwisely.Yelling- Do you go into frequent rages that are out of control, calling your child names ("Brat," "Damn kid") and causing your child to recoil and retreat? This means that you are letting your child punch your anger buttons too easily, that you may not have control of your anger buttons, or that there are simply too many anger buttons. Mirroring unhappiness- Do you walk around all day reflecting to your child that you are unhappy as a person and as a parent? Kids take this personally. If they bring you no joy, they must be no good. Life is a "downer." Parentifying- Are your children taking care of you instead of vice versa? Are you crying and complaining a lot and showing immature overreactions to accidents or misbehaviors? This scares children. You're supposed to be the parent, the one in control protecting them. Blame shifting- Do you unload your mistakes on your kids or your spouse? If so, children learn that the way you deal with problems is to avoid taking personal responsibility for them, and that somehow these problems are just too big for you to manage or that you don't know how to ask for help. Modeling perfection- Are you intolerant of even trivial mistakes made by yourself or your child? The child gets the message that mistakes are horrible to make. This is particularly difficult for the "sponge child," the one who soaks up your attitudes and becomes too hard on himself. Spanking more- Are slaps and straps showing up in your corrections? Are most of your interactions with your child on a negative note? A fearing family- Is your child afraid of you? Does he cringe when you raise your voice and keep a "safe" distance from you? Is your child becoming emotionally flat, fearing the consequences of expressing his emotions? While even the most healthy parent may experience one of these red flags occasionally, if you find they are becoming a routine way of life, for the sake of yourself and your child, get help with your discipline techniques from a friend you admire or professionally 

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