A. She doesn't need a new toy for going to a doctor's appointment, even if she's getting a shot. My kids have never gotten anything but hugs after getting shots. They aren't afraid to go to the doctor, even though they know there's a good chance they'll get shots.B. This is about the same time my kids went through their tantrum phases. Thankfully, mine never had tantrums in pubic. But at home, I just ignored them. I told them I would talk to them again once they calmed down and stopped crying. The tantrums never lasted more than 10 minutes. After about a week the tantrums stopped and they really haven't thrown tantrums since. If a tantrum happens in public it's best to just leave the store. Chances are your daughter wanted more toys and thought that by throwing a tantrum you would give in to her demands. The best way to stop that kind of behavior is to show here in no uncertain terms that she will not get her way. That will force her to learn better negotiating and communication skills. Basically, don't let her behave that way and she won't. My kids can also go to a toy store without wigging out for toys. We go to Babies R Us and Target all the time, we often walk by the toys and my kids may ask for or show interest in toys but they don't freak out when they don't get them.