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How soon is TOO soon?

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My husband and I had our first baby on 2-22-11. We want another, and my husband says that financially we're ready, but he doesn't want me to have another too soon for my health's sake. Is there such a thing as too soon? I had my 6-week appointment a while ago and all was well, but I did have preeclampsia during the pregnancy. How long should I wait, health-wise? And is there anything I can do to avoid preeclampsia this time around?

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My doctor said it's best to wait a least 6 months to have another baby. My aunt got pregnant when her baby was 6 months and she said she felt it wasn't the best thing to have them so close. Two in diapers at once was hard. Not sure about the preeclampsia though. 
I can't answer on the medical side - really, you need to talk to your OBGYN about that before you take any advice from anyone online - but one thing you should think about is whether or not you want your kids to be close together in age.  I know I would much rather have my 18-month-old potty-trained (at least in part) before we had another child.  If you're in a mommy group, ask the other moms (especially if there are some with older kids) about the pros and cons of having kids close together v far apart.  And ask your friends, too, how they felt about having siblings close in age or much older/younger.  Close in age doesn't always equal a close relationship.  My brother is 18 months younger than me; we have never really gotten along.  My husband is 4 years older than his brother; they talk three to four times a week.
All in all it is ultimately up to you if it is what you want. I have a 5 year old and I had another baby on Feb 12 2011 that passes away 3 hours after birth. We are starting to try for another one and it has only been 3 months. If you know that you want a baby again go for it. I am sure it will be hard work, but that is what mom's are made for. We can handle anything.

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