My 13 month old is having some severe jealousy issues and I want to know what I can do. She was 8 weeks premature, so until now we decided to have care takers come into our home to watch her. They have been different, and she doesn't have stranger anxiety too bad. However, we recently started daycare and she is not allowing her daycare provider to take care of her other kids. M, my daughter, has to be held the entire time. And if S, daycare provider, puts her down she cries so hard she starts coughing and acting like she is going to be sick. I was very confused by this because this is terribly unlike my daughter. She is very independent. I do allow her to follow me around, but I don't hold her that much. She plays with me or alone. She is attached to me, but S says as long as she is being held she is fine. I thought it was a change into a new environment. However, today an old friend of mine came over and M cried the entire time unless I was holding her. And it was the crying so hard she started coughing cry. I am thinking this is a jealousy issue now, and I don't know what to do about it besides make her cry, but even that didn't seem to work. I am not a fan of the cry it out method, but I suppose if it is my only option I can try to do it. I am at a complete loss. Please help because her daycare may have to drop her if this continues.
A Very Desperate Mom