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husband wont help with the kids!
Ok. So. I am a 28 year old mother of two little girls who are 7 and 4. I have been married for 4 years. I work full time 3rd shift and my husband works during the day, his hour are very flexible. My issue is he wont help at all. I do everything!! I go to work Sunday night thru Thursday night 11pm-7 am, after getting out of work I stay awake and get my oldest ready and see her off to school. My 4 year didn't meet the age deadline with her birthday being in December so she is still home with me all day. My husband sleeps in every day then gets up and goes to work. So I clean, do all the dishes and laundry and take care of the kids and put them to bed all by myself on 2 hours of sleep a day. He sometimes has friends over and I have to clean up after them as well. He goes and hangs out with friends while he could be home helping or letting me sleep for a bit. I don't know what to do. He doesn't help. He is most of the time home for bed time but never offers to help, just sits and plays on his phone. I'm exhausted and at a loss of what to do..any suggestions?
Communication one on one maybe kids could go to grandma's for the night or a best friends house, and both of you get that really good one on one time. I'm a stay at home mom and not working well I work but don't get paid but my husband and I have our first child and our relationship changed dramatically but that's normal for having kid and we knew what we were getting into so he works 2 jobs so I can be home and there both very physical jobs and require brain smart as well so he's both mentally and physically drained and I do see it but what works for us is date night once to twice a week .our son goes to grandma's for the night and we do whatever we please and communication and still being romantic and understanding of both our lives but I guess we're just laid back if I don't cook for a few days were both fine with that or if I don't feel like doing laundry for a couple were both fine with that our relationship and our son are both equally first then the chores and whatever needs to be done last