I know how you feel. I don't think there is much you can say. Sometimes listening is really all you can do. It sucks and it makes you feel helpless and stupid, but it's just not something that you or I know anything about and nothing we would say would help. There are so many times I know my husband wants to talk and so many times I know he needs support, but I have no idea what to do. I wasn't there, I don't even know what the Marine Corps is like. So I just feel like there's nothing I can contribute, nothing I can say to make it better.That's why the Vet Center has been such a huge help for my husband. He can go talk to therapists who were in the military themselves. At the very least they understand the military, but a lot of them have been to war too, so they really know what it was like and can really help people through things. And they have groups too which is nice because it shows that no one is alone in what they're going through.