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I feel awful... :(

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I feel absolutely awful... I am doing everthing 'right'. Taking care of myself, attending all prenatal appointments, etc... This sounds so bad. :( I just don't feel an emotional connection with my baby. I am 32 weeks along, and I do love her, but I don't know what it is. I just don't feel that emotional connection that everyone else describes. I am hoping that this changes once she is born, I want to be in love with her... but my life is very stressful, and because of that I haven't been able to enjoy and embrace my pregnancy at all . Is this normal? Probably not, but I just feel so awful about it, I am 36, a first time mom, and I want everything to be good, want to be a great mom, but all I feel is stress. Am I the only one that feels this way? I feel like a failure already, and she's not even here yet...

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The fact that you feel "like a failure" is a sign of your love for her. You aren't concerned for you, but for her. I am almost 34 weeks with my first child (son). I know at times I don't feel emotionally "connected" to him, but not all the time. I know other moms though that have gone their whole pregnancy feeling like you and then the moment they held their baby in their arms they felt the bond of a mother and child. Just think of it as any other relationship. it doesn't happen instantly with everyone. You have to give it time! 
everyones different some women become a mommy when they first get pregnant some women become a mommy when they see theirn baby
Some moms dont feel a connection even after birth. It takes a little time to get to know your baby. Every night she would think "Do I love my baby more or my dog more" and she still felt more bonded to the dog! In now time at all she built a great relationship with her baby and now she puts him before everything. The time will come that you truly fall in love with your child. Don't force it - it will happen!
Thanks so much for the encouragment! I will always put her first no matter what, but it helps to know that I'm not the only one who feels this way. 

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