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i have a 3 month old and now im pregnant again! dont know what to do!

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I when to the clinic for a uti and they told me i was pregnant i couldnt believe and i was in shocked bkus i had sex 1 time and took the plan b (emergency morning after pill) i couldve swore it was 100% but i just got told its 70% effective. I was so mad sad confused i started crying. I barrly had a c section 3 months ago and im scared i dont know if i should have him or not i never heard somebody get pregnant so fast after a c section. Im scared and dont know what to do help!!!! All i knoe its gonna be so hard having a newborn and a 11 month old to take care of them both ;(

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whats weird is thats the same exact situation that im in when my daughter caitlyn was three months old i found out i was pregnant caitlyn is now 5 months old and im 15 weeks pregnant
Good luck. It's gonna be hard! I have a 5 month old and I can't imagine having another right now. Good luck hun!!!!
wow, that was quick. congrats, though. it's your decision whether or not you want to keep this baby. i would strongly advise that you do, but it's your choice. next time, try using a better birth control meathod than the morning after pill. condoms, the pill, etc. good luck.
That's a difficult situation and there's no easy answer. I would suggest you make an appointment with the doctor you saw during your last pregnancy. They will know you and all the details of your medical history enough to help you work through the pros and cons of another baby this soon. Although less common now, this happened quite a bit in the "olden days". It may be rough to get through the pregnancy but you may find if you choose to do it, you enjoy having the two close in age as they get older.
Sorry to hear about your news. I'm in a similar situation except my son is 9 months old. I'm already a mom of three & step mom of 2. Bringing another baby into this world is just so hard to wrap my mind around, it's even harder thinking about not having it. Faced with difficult decisions that only you can make that will be best for you & your family. There is no easy answer just know you are not alone.  My daughter is 12 & i tried unsuccessfully to get pregnant & was told I would never have kids again be happy I got the one. I lost 30lbs BAM! pregnant, she is now 5. I lost weight again during my seperation, slept with my husband BAM! pregnant, now 9 months. Once again I lost 20lbs & what do you know. I think I'm not supposed to lose weight.
By the way i cried for a week straight. I think I've come to my decision.
I had this happen to me with my first two kids....  I was 21yrs old at the time and 3 months after having my first I was pregnant with the next.  It is a very overwhelming feeling. I was happy to have my body back to myself and then had to start sharing all over again, the extra responsibility, the panic that I couldn't do it, I had thought about abortion for a few days but ultimately decided to keep the pregnancy and I couldn't be happier that I did.  My daughters are now 7 and 6 and are as inseperable as twins.  I know thinking about it now makes it seem like you can't do it but I promise though it won't be a walk in the park but it will be worth it in the end and if you can handle 2 you can handle anything :) Good luck hun
As a Christian (and you may not believe this, and that's your business), I believe things happen for a reason. I believe God doesn't give us anything we can't handle. Whatever your decision, I hope you get plenty of counsel, either from doctors or family or spiritual counsel or all the above. It would be terrible if you made a hasty decision and regretted it. Stay strong, hun!
who are we to decide wether a baby lives or dies! To me there is no question on to keep or not keep! Usually by the time you find out your pregnant the baby already has a heart one can convince me that it's not killing then! Yeah it sucks for your body, but you can do it, and obviously it was meant to be! I hope you decide to keep this baby. I gurantee you will regret it if you don't. There are ppl in the world that can't have babies at all, how selfish are we that we should decide to end a life of one, when there's ppl who can't have them, or there bodies can't carry them to full term?
my best friend in jr high got pregnant with her first daughter at the end of our 8th grade yr im 18 she is 19 (she might bout to be 20) when her daughter was 10 mnths old she found our she was bout 2mnths pregnant w baby # 2


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