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I'm 14 years old and pregnant

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I know I will get people who are judgemental but I don't care right at this moment right ok I'm 14 years old and I came of the implant few days ago and I slept with my boyfriend and I think I'm now pregnant no to sure but I am going to do a test and everything I've got adhd aswell shell I stop taking my tabs?(Constera 63mg) and also I don't want nobody taking my baby away from me I no I'm young but I feel like I can do this and I want to do this I hope someone helps me:(

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if you still have time take the morning after pill so you don't get pregnant. You are way too young to be a mom, you just becamse a teenager, and doing adult things that an adult is ready to do. stop taking your pills when you find out you are for sure pregant. But seriously, take the morning after pill before 72 hours is up
You should definitely stop taking your tabs. Could harm the baby. You are very young. My daughter was 20 when she had her baby. She knew that it was such a big responsibility. The dad was no help at all. She thought she was in love but turned out it wasn't true. Luckily my aunt who loved children and couldn't have any more (she had 2 boys and adopted a china girl) adopted my granddaughter as well. We see her often. My daughter finished college and just got her job working in a family clinic in Austin. It was the hardest decision she'd ever made and for me as well..but in the end...she was thinking of the baby's well being. I hope you make the right decision and know that it's going to be a rough journey for you. Children are a blessing but also a huge responsibility. You are a mom now. A full time mom that is. It's not about you anymore. Good luck and wish you the best. :))
I'm going to be straight up and honest with you. I just turned 18. I found out I was pregnant at 17, 3 and a half months before my birthday. You have choices and that's what many people neglect to tell you. Your choices? Keep the baby and raise it. Abortion. Adoption. There are pros and cons to all of these however. And if you plan on keeping it, you need to have some form of income. I would suggest the morning after pill but I see you posted this 3 days ago so that's not an option anymore. Firstly, you need to take the test. I bought a two pack. (My fiancee and I were trying to conceive anyway.) It won't show up until you are 5 weeks pregnant (1 week after your expected period) I never had a normal cycle. So I just waited about a month since my last period and took the test. If you find you ARE pregnant however, you need to tell the father of the child, AND your parent(s)/guardian. You then need to make an appointment with the OBGYN. The doctor should tell you your options, what you need to eat and you need to buy prenatal vitamins. (No one said this was going to be cheap.) They will stick a "wand" device up your woman parts and try to see the baby. Now from the moment you find out you are pregnant, you need to start thinking about what you plan on doing with this child. It IS a big responsibility. It's not like playing with dolls. And yes, I know it is annoying to hear. But you need to know what you're getting into. Some questions to ask yourself: Can I handle this if the father wants no part of it? Who is going to watch the baby while I'm at school? What do I plan to do with the baby? (i.e: adoption, abortion,keeping it) Do I have insurance that covers prenatal care? I'm currently 5 months pregnant. I had some bleeding and LOTS of cramps the first 3 months. You need to decide on a place to go for prenatal care. Truthfully, I prefer Planned Parenthood if you have one near you. Now here's a scary thing but don't worry yourself sick about it. You'll be fine as long as you go to an OBGYN as soon as possible. They have this thing called an 'Ectopic Pregnancy'. That's when the sperm gets stuck in the Fallopian tubes. We thought this had happened to me so instead of going o the OBGYN first, we just went straight to the hospital. It RARELY happens. But if you have SEVERE cramps, you need to go to the hospital ASAP. Telling your parent(s)/guardian: Okay, that's not that much fun. More than likely they'll be disappointed but hopefully understanding. Honestly, I was terrified to tell my dad. But the way you have to look at it is, you need to do what's best for you and your unborn child. If you KNOW you can't handle taking care of this child, try to see if you can follow through giving birth and placing the child for adoption. Yes, I imagine it will hurt but at least you know the baby will have a better life. Just please do not be that typical stereotype of 'A child having a child.' Keep in mind, I'm sure your family has more important things to do than raise your child for you. If you can't handle at least 80% of the work on your own, you're not ready for a child. I stepped up to the plate and I'm going to give every bit of strength I have to raise my child with my husband. I'm still finishing up school, he works and we're working on getting our life together and ready for a baby. Maybe there are small jobs you can do for your neighbors to gain money. That baby is going to need diapers, wipes, formula (if you choose not to breastfeed). The child is going to need to have someplace to sleep. If you and your boyfriend(provided he wants to be in the picture) can not provide this, you need to think about adoption or abortion. You can also look into city programs such as welfare and food stamps but do you really want to say you were a 14 year old on welfare and food stamps because you got pregnant? Look at it this way: your child is going to look up to you. Don't you want them to do better in life? Let's say you become a millionaire. Why shouldn't they become a billionaire? Inspire them. I could quit school right now. I refuse to. I don't want my child(ren) to ever say "I don't have to finish school because mommy never did." They are going to be finishing school if I have to drag them every day. Good luck. Oh and fyi, no one can force you to get an abortion if you do not want one.

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