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Im 16 and I think i may be prego...

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Ok i'm 16 and I think I might be prego but im not sure and I don't want to tell my mom, me and my boyfriend had sex and he came in me on march 13 amd 14 and then I had my period for only like 3 days which is VERY short for me, and then he came in me on the 19 and 20 and 21 and I don't know what my fertile days were, but my signs are frequent wee, headache, cramps, I spoted, im VERY tired and my emotions are up and down im more emotional then usual and I feel like I have had a fever lately like the past two days and when I go wee I feel like preassure but I went to the nurse and he made me take a urine test and it came back negative, and I got told I had High protein levels and low iron and when my mom got prego she said she had low iron and I take a lot from her, plz plz plz plz plz does this mean I may be prego? We are wanting to be. fingers crossed :)

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i ment APRIL not march sry
I hope you are not actually wanting to be pregnant, because the reality of parenthood is MUCH, MUCH, MUCH more difficult than the idea. I am a mom of three and had my first at 18, which was definitely too young. You are 16 and have your life ahead of you. Please don't take it the wrong way, but you haven't even really gotten to know yourself yet, and although I'm sure you feel mature, and may think you're ready for parenthood, you definitely aren't. How do you think you will be able to financially support yourselves, finish school and then get through college while trying to juggle raising a child? Yes, parenting has its rewards, but it is a full time job that is full of discipline and is downright EXHAUSTING, even on a good day! Parenting will complicate your life and put so much stress into your relationship that it probably won't last! I know you don't want to hear this and probably won't believe me, but trust me, having a baby will cause you and your boyfriend to fight more. Guys usually take a much longer time to become emotionally mature, so your boyfriend would likely end up NOT pulling his weight when it comes to child-rearing, and you will end up at home with the kid while he's out and about having fun with his friends . Plus you'll end up missing out on the most fun years of your life, and you'll get "left out of the loop" with friends, since you'll be tied down with a child. Having a child at a young age just sets you up for a hard life. You should first finish high school, go to college, start a career, have freedom to be spontaneous, maybe travel and see the world a bit and get to know yourself. Then after you've lived more and learned more, you can start thinking of settling down and starting a family. You'll be wiser then, and have some financial security. If you wait you'll be starting from a much better and easier place than if you started a family as a teen. If you are unsure about your results, take a home pregnancy test, but please start practicing SAFE sex and use contraception!
I won't lecture you, but please read the answer above! I will ask you something. If you're hoping to be pregnant yet you're too afraid to talk to your mother, doesn't that tell you that you're not ready to be a parent? Think about it, OK? I highly doubt you're pregnant judging by the dates you gave, but mostly from the negative test. Blood in your urine ("spilling protein") can occur when you have have frequent sex, which you obviously have. Low iron is quite typical at 16.

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