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IM PREGNANT BY THIS GUY WE NEVER BEEN IN A RELATIONSHIP BUT I LOVE HIM
ABOUT 8MONTHS AGO I GOT PREGNANT BY THIS GUY WHO I THOUGHT WE HAD A RELATIONSHIP GOING BUT HE TOLD ME HE HAS A GIRLFRIEND BUT THEY SEPERATED AND NOW IM PREGNANT HE DONT WANNA BE WITH ME BUT HE SAYS THEY BROKEN UP NOW!!!
Well, if he says he doesn't want to be with you, he probably doesn't want to be with you regardless of whether or not he has broken up with his girlfriend. Obviously, he's a cheater and for the most part, "once a cheater, always a cheater". If he cheated on his ex-girlfriend with you, what would make you think he wouldn't cheat on you?
Also, I am sorry you're in this position, it can't be easy for you. But you need to be honest with yourself and realistic about your situation. You're better off without this guy who would probably cause you more stress and heartache than you need.
I agree that if he doesn't want to be with you, his relationship status and the fact that you are pregnant aren't going to change that fact. What concerns me, however, is that you're eight months pregnant and you have some decisions you're going to need to make, and soon. Do you expect him to help provide child support? Do you expect that he will take on the role of father? Or is he going to blow you and the baby off? In that scenario, are you prepared to raise this child on your own, to provide a stable home for him or her, both financially and emotionally? You need to stop worrying about this guy and start thinking about what's best for your child.
I'm sorry to hear this. A similar thing happened to my cousin when she became pregant with her boy two years ago,and she has been raising him alone. It is challenging but she is glad that she is on her own rather than trying to make it work with someone who doesn't want the same things in life that she does.My advice: stay away from this man. He sounds like a scoundrel, for sure. You can do better.
It's true, judging from his actions he can't be a good man, and I don't think you should want someone like this around so badly. You have a baby to raise now and this is not a situation to take lightly. Also, how will he be with a child? Do you know him well enough to know if he is even capable of being a good Dad?I agreed with everyone else, forget about him and find yourself a good man who hopefully may even be willing to help you raise your child. Your child is the most important thing right now, put your baby first. Regardless of what you do, I think you should take legal action and file for sole custody of your child. Remember, pending a DNA test, right now he had legal rights to this baby too. If he wanted to, he could take your baby and run and the police wouldn't be able to do a thing about it if he's the Dad. Legally it's not kidnapping, it's parenting.File for sole custody so you alone have all right to your baby and get a court order to make him pay child support. Seriously you don't want this man around. It will definately be tough being a single mom, but you will have the new love of your life when you have your baby. Good luck.
Okay well first of all, (I feel like I have to say this because I just recently went through all this custody battle stuff.) What mamablue said, "file for sole custody" don't do that unless you can prove he is a danger to the child a legitament danger with proof. Judges these days are very concerned with both parents being involved and if someone is out of anger suing for sole custody they tend to side with the other parent even more so. Now to your question, honestly I was in your shoes 4 years ago. I was pregnant by a boy I really thought I loved and I thought the best thing was for a child to have both parents in her life. I was so set in this, I didn't realize that I was never really happy in the first place. It's a scary thing trying to raise a child as a single parent, even if the father wants to be involved with the child. What your feeling is natural. When I was around 6 months pregnant my daughters father and I broke up for many reasons the main was because he decided to go to Texas (We lived in Florida) and attend a school for missionaries because God was calling him to.I was heart broken and thought I was never going to live a normal life. It turns out that sometimes when people leave it's really the best thing that could have happened. I was a single mother for a little under a year, when I met the love of my life. A man I didn't have to convince to not only father his child, but someone elses. My point is that, I know it feels like nothing in this world matters more than creating your little family and that if it's not with him you won't ever find anyone else. But the fact is that simply isn't true. I really wish you the best of luck. Try not to put your happiness in the hands of someone else, and I promise you one day you will find someone, that doesn't need to be convienced to be with you.