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Is it wrong for a dad to occasionally sleep with his toddler (son)?

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I am a father to two toddlers, and my work often takes me away from home, but when I am home I make time for both of my sons, and am quite close to them. My oldest son is very attached to me, and occasionally will not go to bed unless I'm there with him. I don't sleep with him on a regular basis, and he normally does not have trouble going to bed. But occasionally I will lie down in his bed with him and fall asleep. My question is, is there anything wrong with that? My wife seems to think that it is "faggish" and that my boys will grow up and be less than manly as a result of my treating them this way. I don't see a problem with it, as long as it is an occasional thing, and not a regular occurrence. Are her concerns legitimate? Or is she just jealous of the relationship I have with my sons?

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There is absolutely nothing wrong in letting your child sleep with you. Our 15 mo old daughter sleeps with us nightly and she is one very happy, healthy baby. As for your wife saying it is faggish saddens me. I grew up without my biological father present in my life so having my husband here to raise our daughter with me is a blessing. I encourage him to give her baths, change her diapers and when I was breast feeding he would help her latch on and it's not strange or creepy that is his daughter and he should be doing those things even if at first it made him uncomfortable. I want my daughter to have the same bond with her father as she does with myself. Sorry if I went on about myself. My point is that he is your son and you are allowed to share those moments with him. There is something that dads give their children that mothers cannot I say that coming from a broken home and not having that bond. Keep being the awesome dad that you are because your son is going to be an awesom person one day and an even better dad thanks to your love and support. As for your wife's remark I'm not sure if she realized how hurtful what she said was but you should let her know that it bothered you and talk about it. Good luck
I am not a professional but in my opinon it sounds like your granddaughter has security issues with her parents. I am not one to judge I have been a single parent and at a young age and it's so hard the hardest job I have ever had. My situation is for the better now thankfully. If you're ex daughter inlaw in fact is absent from her daughter a lot there are going to be issues of fear and insecurity. Your granddaughter just wants her mom.. She needs her mom. If my mom dropped me off every week for four days as a child I would miss her too.. I would wonder is she coming back? When will she pick me up? Is she going to spend time with me when she does. You're in a tough spot because you have raised your children and you see the importance of spending time with LO's. I hope she wakes up soon and sees just how lucky she is to have a healthy daughter and how lucky she is to have someone who cares so much about her daughter and is willing to care for her daughter the way that you do.
I am not a professional but in my opinon it sounds like your granddaughter has security issues with her parents. I am not one to judge I have been a single parent and at a young age and it's so hard the hardest job I have ever had. My situation is for the better now thankfully. If you're ex daughter inlaw in fact is absent from her daughter a lot there are going to be issues of fear and insecurity. Your granddaughter just wants her mom.. She needs her mom. If my mom dropped me off every week for four days as a child I would miss her too.. I would wonder is she coming back? When will she pick me up? Is she going to spend time with me when she does. You're in a tough spot because you have raised your children and you see the importance of spending time with LO's. I hope she wakes up soon and sees just how lucky she is to have a healthy daughter and how lucky she is to have someone who cares so much about her daughter and is willing to care for her daughter the way that you do.

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