I'm a firm believer that it's not possible to spoil an infant - so my answer would be no, your daughter isn't spoiled. She's just come to realize that if she cries, you'll pick her up, and that she gets to sleep in bed with you, because those are the precedents you've taught her. It's possible to break her of those habits, but that means you have to be firm about it. Some parents do sleep in the same bed as their kids, and it works for them. I don't, and it works for us. You have to do what you're comfortable doing, and if you want to move her out of your bed and out of your bedroom, now is a good time to do it (it'll only get harder as she gets older). There's lots of ways to make the switch - you can go cold turkey and let her scream it out, or you can move her to her own room after she falls asleep. You can sit with her in her own room, next to her crib, until she falls asleep, gradually moving further away every night until she's comfortable. There's no right or wrong way - there's just the way that works for you. Try several methods until you hit on one that seems to work better than the rest. As for not carrying her around - nine months is when most babies start having stranger anxiety, so that's one reason why she might not be willing to go to anyone else. That doesn't mean you have to hold her ALL the time. When she's feeling particularly clingy, stop whatever else you were doing, sit on the floor with her, and play with her, read her books, build with her blocks, blow bubbles, anything. She can sit in your lap, or next to you, but gradually, as she becomes more interested in what you're doing, she'll hopefully move a little further away and start to play. It's tempting, but don't move away yourself just yet - let her get comfortable. This will take some time, but you're basically teaching her to learn to play by herself - and trust me, when she's older and fully mobile, this is the BEST PRESENT you can ever give yourself. It's not just about her playing by herself - it's about you going to the bathroom! Washing the dishes! Having a telephone conversation! Good luck!